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I have a serious question
| Tue, 03-13-2007 - 5:01pm |
How much abuse in a relationship is enough given our Christian beliefs on divorce? My good friend has been dealing with her husband for 15 years comming home drunk, or not at all. Everytime, he says he is going to change, but never does. She won't leave him because the Bible says to forgive, so she forgives over and over only to be hurt over and over. She is so depressed and has three kids who are hitting the teen years and are starting to act out in anger and rebellion. The entire family has suffered under this man. Is there a scriptual basis for divorce or that enough is enough and she would be free from the guilt of leaving this loser? Thanks. I am going to share your replys with her.

I understand that your friend holds the belief that it says in the Bible she cannot divorce.
I would think that since marriage vows typically include "I promise to love and honor you", and abusing one's spouse does neither of those things, she should be able to be granted an annulment. This man is NOT living up to his promise. AND, if she can prove that he was drunk at the time of the marriage, she could probably get an annulment (which would declare the marriage invalid: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Annulment)
Also, as far as the Bible saying to forgive, that's fine and dandy but if your friend has children and her husband is bringing potential harm to them, how is she going to forgive HERSELF for allowing them to remain in a harmful environment?
So sorry to hear that she's been going through this...positive thoughts for her and her family...
Best wishes,
~V
Hi, spiritdove.