Hi there - I've been going through some tough times lately, and was looking for a place to make friends online that could understand. In brief, my situation is this. I am a 32 year old mom of one 3 1/2 year old son. I am happily married. The list of stressors reads like this......In the past year I have gone through (and continue to go through) the following: Sold our home of 10 years, moved to a bigger home and had to sell that within a few months due to a downward turn in my parents' health. Now living with my parents while looking for a "mother daughter" type house. Mom suffers from the middle to late stages of dementia/Alzheimers. Dad is not physically strong anymore, but is fighting getting any help. I have been bathing, dressing, and wiping my mother. I lost my job unexpectedly. I had a minor surgical procedure earlier this year that went horribly wrong - I was allergic to the anesthesia which threw me into Adult Respiratory Distress Syndrome (ARDS), and left me on a respirator in a drug-induced coma for 8 days hovering near death. I still struggle with some post-traumatic stress from that incident. My son is not adjusting well to this latest move at all - not sleeping at night, regressing, etc. Meanwhile I am trying to maintain my patience with him, as he is a preschooler and trying his best. The amount of stress has put a SEVERE damper on my sex life - we are either too stressed or too tired most of the time. We have had sex about 3 times in the last 6 months. We have also had three cancer scares in the past year (two for me, one for DH). We continue to look for a house, but most of the homes in our area are out of our price range. Meanwhile we must stay in the area because DH's job is secure (a ray of good news in all this!). Also my son has some developmental delays, and I am trying to work with him on those. (Mainly speech therapy).
The good news is that my marriage is strong, and I have tried to maintain some sense of humor throughout this whole mess.
What can I do to help my family through this tough time? I am losing my hair (literally) from all the stress. Any advice on that?
Well, thanks for listening. I look forward to reading responses!