IRL friends can be so disappointing

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IRL friends can be so disappointing
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Sun, 11-07-2004 - 8:42pm
I shouldn't even post this but am disappointed even tho I shouldn't be because I knew it would turn out this way anyways. One of my "closer" friends IRL (1 friend that I meet for lunch about weekly anyways) just sent me an email. I am planning to have a cooking home party at my house this week (for stuff that I sell). She had told me how ridiculous it is to pay such prices and that she can make food for herself and but down this stuff and just can't see why anyone would want to buy or sell it. But she will buy other (non-edible over priced stuff from home parties) that basically sits around the house or in drawers and doesn't get really used, pays way too much for it plus has to pay tax and shipping and handling prices that are way over-priced. So I knew not to expect her to come but am still disappointed that she is indeed not going to come and at least help support my idea or be here for me. We do alot of different things together, like take the kids swimming or to lunch or to the park or whatever and now that our kids are in school, we meet for lunch about once a week. But I really don't feel close enough to her to tell her too much about what is going on in my life (she knows quite abit of mondane stuff but not too much of my feelings about anything (make sense?)). Feeling like this, just makes me feel more alone and worthless. Maybe if it weren't for it being Sunday and that dh is almost always a jerk on Sundays, I wouldn't feel bad over it. Sorry to vent here, wasn't sure where else to post at...... Why do I even bother to continue to try to even live this life? I absolutely stink at it.

Sandra.

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Sun, 11-07-2004 - 9:42pm

Hi Sandra,


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Mon, 11-08-2004 - 11:31am
Hi Sandra ~

Like what Lori just said, your friend wasn~t very tactful! A bit insensitive to your feelings definately. I know I would appreciate a friend LIKE YOU who would invite me to a cooking home party.

Hope you~re feeling happier today ~

HUGS

Faith

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I shouldn't even post this but am disappointed even tho I shouldn't be because I knew it would turn out this way anyways. One of my "closer" friends IRL (1 friend that I meet for lunch about weekly anyways) just sent me an email. I am planning to have a cooking home party at my house this week (for stuff that I sell). She had told me how ridiculous it is to pay such prices and that she can make food for herself and but down this stuff and

just can't see why anyone would want to buy or sell it. But she will buy other (non-edible over priced stuff from home parties) that basically sits around the house or in drawers and doesn't get really used, pays way too much for it plus has to pay tax and shipping and handling prices that are way over-priced. So I knew not to expect her to come but am still disappointed that she is indeed not going to come and at least help support my idea or be here for me. We do alot of different things together, like take the kids swimming or to lunch or to the park or whatever and now that our kids are in school, we meet for lunch about once a week. But I really don't feel close enough to her to tell her too much about what is going on in my life (she knows quite abit of mondane stuff but not too much of my feelings about anything (make sense?)). Feeling like this, just makes me feel more alone and worthless. Maybe if it weren't for it being Sunday and that dh is almost always a jerk on Sundays, I wouldn't feel bad over it. Sorry to vent here, wasn't sure where else to post at...... Why do I even bother to continue to try to even live this life? I absolutely stink at it.

Sandra.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Mon, 11-08-2004 - 12:47pm
Hi Sandra...I'm really sorry about your friend, and how she made you feel. I don't have any IRL friends anymore because I got really tired of being disappointed all the time...many people don't understand my illness (bipolar) and its hard to keep explaining over and over and over again. Anyway, I'd love to be your online friend, I know its not the same...but I'm here for you. And you DO NOT stink at life...i promise.

Hugs,

Keli