Talked to boyfriend about weight

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Registered: 11-15-2004
Talked to boyfriend about weight
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Wed, 12-01-2004 - 10:47am
I talked to my boyfriend last night on the phone about how I really feel about my weight. I told him that I'm confident around him, but that I am unhappy with myself and that I want to lose weight. He was surprisingly accepting, and he said that he's glad that I actually care about the way that I look. He said this his girlfriends in the past have complained about their weight, but haven't done anything about it. He did warn me that he doesn't want to see me starving myself or making myself throw up, but if I do that, I'll just make sure that he doesn't find out about it. I'm so happy now, because I feel like I have his support. It will be easy to not eat around him because he knows that I'm trying to lose weight.
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Registered: 02-12-2004
Wed, 12-01-2004 - 4:34pm

I'm glad you were able to open up to your boyfriend about your concerns about weight...

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Wed, 12-01-2004 - 4:59pm

Thanks for replying to my post. I always really enjoy reading what you've written to me. You are so kind and accepting. I really appreciate that you don't judge me. Sometimes I feel like my friends at college are judging me. They will say things like, "You are already thin - why do you need to lose weight? You are thinner than me, anyway." I try not to talk about my weight around my friends because most of them are bigger than me and I don't want to insult them, but they love to bring up the fact that I eat less than they do and stuff like that. I don't want to hurt their feelings, but at the same time, I just want them to not comment on what I'm doing. A lot of times, they make fun of me, which I don't really like.

I guess that my boyfriend had good reason to wish that his last girlfriend took better care of herself. She is 5'4" and weighs 230 lbs. He said that she complained about her weight all the time, but never did anything about it. I guess she and I are sort of at two extremes. I do appreciate that he's not telling me what I can and can't do, but at the same time, I'm glad that he likes me the way that I am.

Thanks again!!

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Registered: 02-12-2004
Thu, 12-02-2004 - 10:20am

You're welcome, glad I could be of help! And besides, it's not my place to judge people. That tears people down and I'm trying to do just the opposite!


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Thu, 12-02-2004 - 6:33pm
Hi PinkStar ~ I hope I'm not out of line here,,,I just wanted to say I hope you try not to do the 'throwing-up thing.' I used to do that and all I can remember is how miserable I was and felt during that time. To hide that from your boyfriend is kind of deceitful if you've promised you wouldn't do it,,,ya think ?
Anyway,,,I hope I didn't offend you,,,it isn't my place to say to you what to do or not to do,,,it just spurred some memories for me when I read your post and they weren't very happy ones.
Take care please
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Thu, 12-02-2004 - 11:32pm
It's okay. You definitely didn't offend me. I'm just so fat and gross. I don't know what else to do.