What makes you feel unhappy/hopeless?

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What makes you feel unhappy/hopeless?
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Thu, 02-10-2005 - 10:43am

I am just curious. I know that so many people on this board feel unhappy and hopeless at times but i was curious as to what the cause of that was??  I guess I am wondering if it is one thing in particular for you or a combination and what type of things in particular cause you to have a better day than normal or worse day than normal?


I know that I usually feel worse when small things compound more than one big thing. Like if I oversleep then get in trouble at work and then have a fight with my boyfriend and then have too much going on that I never get anything done.  But I also know that everyone has their own issues. I don't ever really feel bad enough to hurt myself but I did briefly think about it a few years back and I am just curious as to what everyones thoughts are??


When you feel like giving up?? What keeps you going?? 


 



     



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Thu, 02-10-2005 - 1:15pm

WONDERFUL and thought provoking question, Nicole--THANK YOU for asking it!!!


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Thu, 02-10-2005 - 4:25pm
Hey Nicole :) Well a lot of things make me feel hopeless, but overall the things that trigger me into hopelessness are like what you said: little things compounding. I tend to deal well with big things, crisis or whatnot. These days the main things that are affecting me the most are 1)Not doing well in school 2)Being away from my fiance 3)Not having a social life
The things that make me feel good are 1)When my fiance is with me 2)When I accomplish something (like get a good mark, etc) 3)Sleep 4)Having someone to talk to
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Thu, 02-10-2005 - 4:28pm
I'm a big fan of sleep too :) And good chocolate :) and helping others :)


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Thu, 02-10-2005 - 5:24pm
There are many things that make me feel unhappy and then many more than can make me feel hopeless. I don't know if thinking about them will be a good thing for me to do but I'll try. I'm unhappy about a lot of things regarding my family,,,the helplessness in being able to make everything 'okay' and knowing that there is only so much I can do,,,and that is so little regarding some family members. Wishing I was doing better than I am right now,,,wishing I had made better choices in the past,,,but trying to tell myself I wasn't capable and needed help,,,but didn't get it. Comparing myself to others can send me rocketing to the bottom. I wish I could learn to be grateful for what I have for I do have more than others and despite that,,,I am still unable to grasp that concept and only see my voids. Hopeless feelings again for some family members and situations that I know will only worsen in time,,,I try not to think too much about these people as they only cause me to become sadder and sometimes so very angry.
I'm glad you've never felt bad enough to hurt yourself Nicole. I hurt myself too often,,,in my head and then SI'ing and then thinking how I can just escape it all for good.
What keeps me going? My children,,,though there have been times when I have even put them, my most precious of everything in my life aside when I am just so filled with saddness I can only flounder in my despair.
Thanks for the questions Nicole,,,good to think about things like that,,,even though it isn't all that comfortable thinking about them.
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Fri, 02-11-2005 - 9:26am

it isn't comfortable thinking about things that make us feel unhappy. I know I didn't elaborate, but I don't want you all to think that I am never unhappy. There are a lot of things that make me unhappy when I think about them. My grandparents and my sister are all the family I have really. My sister will be going to college in 3 years to wherever and my grandparents are getting older. When I think about losing them it hurts because I remember how much it hurt when my mom died.

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