Is There An End TO Pain

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Registered: 05-12-2003
Is There An End TO Pain
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Wed, 05-25-2005 - 6:26pm
Besides suicide which would hurt to many people for me to do it is there any other way out of this pain that I am in. I have no self esteem and I know that is a big part of my problems and if I could just get some esteem I would be doing better then I am right now. Andrea
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Registered: 03-11-2004
Wed, 05-25-2005 - 8:10pm

Hi, Andrea! I read your profile & suffering from depression is such a small part of it. You have many accomplishments to be proud of. I would like to think that you are so much more than your illness. Is that how you've been defining yourself? I have done the same & it feeds into the unending cycle of not feeling good about myself. Have you ever thought about writing a list of your strengths & weaknesses? Like many folks, the weaknesses when you're feeling so down will outnumber the strengths. But don't give up. Throw the weaknesses out & don't look back. Then, whenever the negative thinking gets the best of you, reinforce all the strengths. This is a difficult task. Give it a shot.


I thank my God that you have realized in advance that you would leave casualties in your wake if you took your life. You have made the right decision. How would Irv cope? I see he has no family. Where would he be without you in the picture? Sometimes we have to live for others until we can get that desire to live for ourselves, back.


No magic wand here. I just have first hand knowledge that there is an end to the pain & you'll have to trust others until you can find out for yourself. Please keep in touch & let us know how you're feeling. We care. We want to see you live the good life you deserve. Good luck & GBU! (((hugs))) jan