Rage?

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Registered: 01-21-2005
Rage?
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Wed, 06-01-2005 - 12:30pm

I've been having a relatively bad couple of days. Nothing truely traumatic has happened (no deaths or anything like that), just a bunch of annoying things... For example, I requested to be on a certain audit at work and didn't get it, but was offered no explanation even though prior to yesterday this audit was assumed to be mine. Then today, my sink was clogged and the garbage disposal broke and then my sister went downstairs as I was leaving to work to find that her car had been towed and had to pay quite a bit to get it back when it shouldn't have been towed in the first place.

So anyway, I'm really angry right now. On one hand, I feel totally justified. But in my head, these problems just keep making me more and more angry instead of sort of fading away. I'm really enraged right now. I want to start screaming or something and I don't know what to do. In just the past couple of hours I have gone from a normal person to someone who is out of control and thinking all sorts of crazy thoughts. How do I deal with my rage? I am just so angry!! I just received an email from my boyfriend with some prayer in it. I am not religious and it has just about sent me over the top that he would impose this on me. Any advice on how I can deal with this is appreciated.

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Registered: 07-24-2004
In reply to: nikitakolata
Wed, 06-01-2005 - 5:17pm
Hello nikitakolta,,,don't know if you are new here,,,so if you are 'welcome.' I just wanted to tell you that I understand about 'rages' and how they can consume you and you just have so much anger and 'stuff' in you sometimes you don't know what to do with it.
I'm sorry about the job thing at your work,,,,and then the other things that added to it.
It is 'funny' in a way as I just returned from seeing one of my 2 therapists and we talked a lot about 'anger.' He says that anger isn't the emotion we are actually feeling when we get like that,,,,it is the build-up of all the other emotions,,,saddness,,,hurt,,,lonliness etc. that leads to it,,,,and when we stuff all of that in us over and over again it just blows eventually,,,because it just has to. I don't know if I honestly agree or understood everything he was trying to convey to me,,,but some of it made sense. We are so trained or used to stuffing our emotions that sometimes things that wouldn't make us errupt do just that because there is just too much already there.
I don't know if this even made much sense,,,but I did just want to acknowledge your post and tell you I understand and hope things will eventually calm down for you.
Your question on how to deal with it,,,,well I'm not the one to ask that as I don't have a coping skill I would recommend. Take Care Please,,,,,Abby
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Registered: 02-12-2004
In reply to: nikitakolata
Wed, 06-01-2005 - 9:31pm

Hi Nikita and welcome to the board! I'm sorry to hear that you are struggling with anger right now.... I hope your sister got her car back okay!


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Registered: 03-11-2004
In reply to: nikitakolata
Thu, 06-02-2005 - 9:07am
Hi & welcome to our community. I hope you're feeling better today. IMHO anger is the culmination of many emotions. Sadness, pain(both real & emotional), feelings of injustice, stress,