why do i bother anymore?... :(

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Registered: 02-19-2005
why do i bother anymore?... :(
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Fri, 07-29-2005 - 9:37pm

There should be a broken heart icon...

DH Alan just had surgery for a herniated disk. It went well, he spent one night in the hospital. He's "camping" out in the living room, on a mattress, in front of the tv during his recovery.

It's going to be a long two weeks.

Anyway... He used to work P/T at a grocery store, and most of his co-workers are really nice, they ask him how he's doing. They knew that he had to leave b/c of his back. So, one of the women who works there became friends with me, and she is friends with Alan, too.

I'm rambling... sorry.

Judy called here to ask about him. I was out earlier with the kids, I made sure to put the phone near him, he even asked me to put it there. Judy called here, no answer, Alan was probably napping. Judy called me on my cell phone asking me how he is, I talked to her for a couple of minutes, told her to call Alan a bit later, I'm sure that he would talk to her.

She called a little while ago, but we didn't get to the phone in time. We have caller ID, so I saw that it was her. I handed Alan the phone, told him he needs to call Judy... he jumped down my throat and said that he does NOT have to call Judy, he doesn't WANT to call Judy, and that he doesn't need to tell everyone his business like I do.

OMG. Can you say stab in the heart?

I'm fuming. I'm hurting. He totally had no reason to jump on me.

I hate him right now. I hate being here with him. I hate the fact that I have to take care of him during his stupid recovery. I HATE IT.

... Crying...
Vida

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Sat, 07-30-2005 - 1:02pm

(((Vida))) I hope you're feeling a little better today. Disagreements such as these happen in the best of relationships. You have mentioned before that you have had times that you regretted your behavior. I bet hubby is having one of those times right now. I got to thinking that maybe he isn't feeling so great after his surgery. Maybe he was having some discomfort. He got a little testy. Maybe he really is sort of private about things & doesn't want Judy to know his business. Honestly, I have never been certain what makes men tick. & to think that we women are such a puzzle to them. LOL


Anyway, to answer your question. Why do you bother? Because you care. You are a good mom & wife. You have more stress than you can handle right now. You need a break. Find a little bit of space for yourself. Take that breather. Sending P&PT's your way. (((hugs))) jan