A Very Special Tuesday Thought

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A Very Special Tuesday Thought
Tue, 08-02-2005 - 1:18am
Tuesday, August 2, 2005

 

When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don't blame the
lettuce. You look for reasons it is not doing well. It may need
fertilizer,
or more water, or less sun. You never blame the lettuce.

Yet if we have problems with our friends or family, we blame the other
person. But if we know how to take care of them, they will grow well,
like
the lettuce. Blaming has no positive effect at all, nor does trying to
persuade using reason and arguments.

That is my experience. No blame, no reasoning, no argument, just
understanding.
Thich Nhat Hahn