Life going nowhere

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Registered: 04-15-2005
Life going nowhere
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Fri, 04-07-2006 - 10:54pm
I normally only feel this way when I’m PMS’ing, but this time I’m not. I honestly have no reason to get up in the morning anymore. If it weren’t for my 2 cats, I think I would have checked out already. I’ve never felt so alone in my whole life. No parents, no siblings, no family of my own – just nothing. I recently got rid of the few friends I had left because of some serious deal breakers. And now I can’t find any new friends. People are only drawn to happy people – and I can’t even pretend to fake it anymore. I just don’t know what I can do to hold on to the tiniest hope, at this point.
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Registered: 02-12-2004
Sat, 04-08-2006 - 4:18pm

Hi Shandi and welcome to the board! I'm sorry you are having such a tough time of it right now!


Have you felt like this before in your life or this fairly new for you? I'm wondering if you've ever been diagnosed with depression? I'm not here to diagnose but it sounds like you may be depressed... Have you ever seen a therapist, and if not, WOULD you consider it? Having no supports in your life is tough and it can take time to build a support network. It concerns me that you are feeling hopeless--like you have no reason to get up in the morning. I'd urge you to reach out to your regular doctor or, look in the phonebook for a therapist or crisis line--in addition to the support you are sure to find here! Hugs, Lori

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Registered: 03-09-2005
Sun, 04-09-2006 - 7:34pm

Shandi,

"People are only drawn to happy people." You're absolutely right. That's why I have such a hard time making new friends too. If you read my recent posts, I'm totally alone this week and going insane.

It's hard to be alone, but at the same time you don't want to be with fake or toxic people...being alone is better but just barely. And as I get into my twenties, I noticed that most adults don't really want to make new friends. They only want to stick to the people they have known for years. But if you move to a new place, like me, or all your friends move away, also like me, and your DH is on a business trip, again like me, you're out of luck!

Anyway, I'm availible to hang out with, especially this week, LOL. There are a lot of lonely people out there- the problem is finding each other!




Edited 4/9/2006 7:37 pm ET by bluerains
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Registered: 08-02-2005
Tue, 04-11-2006 - 10:58am

I too think it sounds like depression, but again, I'm not here to diagnose either. See your family doctor and maybe get a referral to a therapist. That and meds may help.


Check out the wellness recovery action plan, especially the "must do list" and find out all the things other than medication that you can do to try and stay well. Set little goals for yourself and reward yourself when you accomplish them.


And keep posting!

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