Body Image (Mild trigs? Not too bad)
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| Sat, 05-27-2006 - 2:48pm |
Well it's summer, and I finally got a bathing suit for the first time in years. But I don't know if I'll wear it. See, I used to be really thin at one point and loved it and I felt so sexy that way. I didn't diet, I was just young (age 20-22) and pretty active, walking a lot, and ate whatever I wanted and still stayed thin.
Now I'm still thin, but not as toned and small as I used to be. I'm 27, and wondering if this is natural or am I overeating? I eat healthy food but also love fast food and dessert.
I know that if I want to look good I have to exercise, but I've been literally trying to motivate myself to work out for years and have never done it. I want to be in shape but I'm too lazy to work out, LOL! I hate sweating, and also I've tried it before and gotten discouraged when I don't see any change at all in two weeks. And then I stop.
And also, when I work out I get even hungrier, so I'm afraid I might gain more weight!
Only once I worked out and changed my body- it took 6 months- by taking a jazz dance class in college. It was 6 hrs a week of dance workouts, which was awesome- I loved the way I looked and I could dance!
I want the outcome of a great body but I have a huge stumbling block: the working out part. My body is OK, DH says I'm gorgeous, I know I'm still thin but I'm not as in shape as I could be, and like any woman I want to be. I feel like, I'm on the borderline where if I get any more out of shape I'll start to feel ugly. And I don't diet, becuase I know that just backfires and never works.
So I need major motivation. I guess the main block is that my body takes SO LONG to get in shape- I want toned muscles and I want them soon, not in three months or so. I also want to lose a few inches, but from toning, not diets. Ideas? Motivation? Thank you for your help. Right now my body is this: somewhat thin, but totally out of shape- no muscle tone- and I want to lose a few inches before I would look really great in summer clothes.

p.s hooray for you buying a new bathingsuit,,,,hope you'll get it wet *smile*
"p.s hooray for you buying a new bathingsuit,,,,hope you'll get it wet *smile*"
Thanks Abby. I haven't worn a bathing suit in a few years, I just feel so self concious in it, especially when the last time I went to the beach it seemed like half the girls were gorgeous 16 year olds in bikinis! I do miss swimming though so I might try it, at least once this year.
It's a lavender one piece suit, I think I would need a year at the gym before risking a bikini. And even then I don't know.
I want to get in shape, I just hate how uncomfortable it is working out when you're totally out of shape. I can't breathe and I get so tired in minutes, and it's such an uncomfortable feeling. But I'd like to change that, and get in shape instead of just thinking about it...
Hey Blue,
(((Blue)))
I can totally relate to what you are saying. I know I am thin too but out of shape. I have been exercising for the last month and getting inpatient about seeing results. But the thing about results is that they take longer to achieve but doing it slow and healthy will produce lasting results.
It's good to hear that you don't diet. And I don't think that liking the occasional fast food or dessert is a problem. Everything in moderation, right?
I know you want to see results now, but it's just something that you are going to have to accept won't happen immediately.
I think you should go back to dance class that is great for strength, cardio and flexibility and it's fun, and that's the only way to get and stay motivated to do it.
I don't know if I helped any, but know that I understand.
Schitz,
You've been exersising for a month? That is so cool! I'm proud of you! I'll let you know if I manage to get started.
Do you notice any changes yet? A month seems like a long time, you've got great commitment and motivation!
Did you join a gym, what is your plan? Only if you don't mind talking about it.
I'll confess- I"m so embarrased- DH and I joined bally's total fitness a few years ago and I only went for 2 weeks! Then seeing no changes I quit! DH never went at all! Isn't it awful? And all the while we were paying, and it was so hard to get out of the contract, we wasted so much money. That's how lazy I am.
So far I've seen no changes to the shape of my body, which is my ultimate goal, but I have lost weight.
I didn't join a gym. I can't afford that, but I have a few videos (aerobics and cardio kickboxing oh and ballet) and I bought myself the "total gym" - it's the one that is an incline platform on pullies that you use your own body weight as resistance (but man is it heavy to get out and put away).
I hope that you will find an exercise you like (still like the idea of dancing)
Wow! What we poor women go thru. I bet you look great. I wish I was 27 again. Time flies really really really really fast. Before you know it you're 48 and could care less what someone thinks of you in a bathing suit. I used to be self-concious like you when I was that age. Now I wish I weighed and looked like that.
I don't like working out either. Once I tried a power yoga workout that Sting (the singer/muscian) had in a magazine. I did it for a month; lost 5 pounds and saw a little tone. Have you tried yoga or pilates?
I walk everyday. It helps calm me down. At this point I don't care so much about the pudge and how I look in a bathing suit. I guess I'm learning to just accept myself for what I am. But then again I don't have a boyfriend. I could be eating my words really fast...
Hubbub,
Sometimes I feel that way too, that it does'nt matter what I look like, but sometimes it bothers me.
I actually found an old 40 minute yoga/pilates work out video that I gave to DH as a gift years ago. You guessed it...neither of us ever used it. I have it out and am working up to actually trying it one day...
I'm procrastinating!
"....I'm procrastinating!"
I feel ya'