what the flip trigs??????
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| Thu, 06-01-2006 - 10:49am |
ok I am not sure what is going on with me, I get so flippin mad that I actually punch things and it just comes out of the blue. Yesterday I had an appt with my T and it just seemed like the session went by too fast and after I left there I was in this mood and it only got worse as the day went on, I am losing control and I dont like it, I know I would never hit my kids but I am losing my temper so easily now a days and I am not sure why, I dont know if this has something to do with bipolar or wat but I am starting to get scared it isnt like me to just lash out and hit things. I have talked to my T but really nothing more has been said other then that I shouldnt hit things and that she said something to the fact that I need to stay on my meds which I have been taking like I am pose to. has this happened to anyone else, if I hurt anyone I couldnt live with myself I would rather hurt myself then hurt someone else. please if anyone has any suggestions please tell me.
Mary

Hi Mary,
Hi Mary,
I have some thoughts. Possible trigs below.
This makes sense to me, becuase anger and sadness often go hand in hand. One is the flip side of the other. I go through phases when something bad happens. First I get really sad about something, and then if nothing changes I get angry!
And in fact, according to Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, Anger is one of the Stages of Grief. Now, it doesnt' necessarily mean grief for a death. Perhaps grief for another loss? Or grief over some tragedy or suffering?
I found this definition from Wikipedia, an online encyclopedia:
"The stages Kubler-Ross identified are:
1. Denial and isolation
2. Anger
3. Bargaining
4. Depression
5. Acceptance
Kübler-Ross originally applied these stages to any form of catastrophic personal loss, such as the death of a loved one, or even divorce. She also claimed these steps do not necessarily come in order, nor are they all experienced by all patients, though she stated a person will always experience at least two."
Maybe this has nothing to do with your situation, but I think it's interesting that anger is so universal. It is natural to feel anger, and not always bad. Anger is a sign you need to work through something so it doesn't turn into aggression or become destructive.
(((Mary)))
Sorry to hear that you are having a rough time. Anger can be a very difficult emotion to deal with. Firstly, if you can identify the triggers that might help. Second you have to learn to live with your anger and not judge it as "bad". Third, being angry doesn't mean that you will be violent. That is not like you. Lastly, can you make up a list of things to do as an outlet for your anger? Paint, dance, sing, scream...
Hugs,