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Thu, 08-03-2006 - 11:32pm
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Edited 9/12/2009 1:45 pm ET by alsmith32
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Fri, 08-04-2006 - 2:59pm

Hi Allie,


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Fri, 08-04-2006 - 5:18pm

I think some people just have a more pessimistic or thoughtful style, as Lori said. I am one of them.

I don't think it's a problem unless it bothers you. Does it bother you?

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Fri, 08-04-2006 - 7:51pm
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Edited 9/12/2009 1:45 pm ET by alsmith32
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Sat, 08-05-2006 - 12:06pm

I don't think it's as simple as the therapist seems to see it. Is she a new therapist? Regardless, maybe one with a different style would help you more? Or, maybe she will help you but you need some time to get used to each other.

"When she said if I didn't WANT to get better, that she couldn't help me, that scared me."
Ugh. People have said that to me before and while it may be true, it's a mean and pointless thing to say. It's so obvious that we all know it, but it still comes across as judgemental. I don't know, but don't assume the problem is you at this point- it could just be a "bad fit" with this particular therapist.

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Sun, 08-06-2006 - 1:55am
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Edited 9/12/2009 1:45 pm ET by alsmith32
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Sun, 08-06-2006 - 11:55am

I went to a psychiatrist once, and all he did was make small talk for about five minutes. He then told me afterward that he was evaluating me based on that, and that HE thought I was normal! I did NOT feel OK though, or why would I go there in the first place? He diagnosed me with general anxiety disorder and social anxiety, and wrote out a prescription for lexipro and that was it. (I never filled the prescription because meds make me sick, and I was hoping for some therapy, not pills.)

I hope and expect that your appointment will be more helpful than that, but I'm sure it won't be anything too stressful required of you at the first meeting. Let him take the lead and he'll ask you what he wants to know.

"Thanks for the responses, I really feel like someone is listening and it's very comforting. I don't really have anyone else to share with, not about this stuff."

You're welcome. It is the same with me, I have no one in real life who really understands anxiety and depression.

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Edited 9/12/2009 1:44 pm ET by alsmith32
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Wed, 08-09-2006 - 10:06am

He sounds like the same guy I saw! I wonder why he didn't react to the weight issue. That is unsettling.

The only thing I can think of is, maybe he doesn't know about eating disorders and did not know what to say...but still it would be nice if he referred you to a specialist. Maybe you should see someone who knows how to help with that... 25lbs does sound like a lot. Take care of yourself!

I have control issues too, I tried to redirect them. Instead of controlling my weight by being as thin as possible, I try to control my health by being as healthy as possible. It is actually harder than losing weight... and there is a lot to control there and satisfy the control instinct. I try to control my diet in relation to nutrition, which means I can't be malnuritioned, undernuritioned, etc. I have to say I'm definately not perfect at it but either way, I feel better and satisfy the need to control.