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| Fri, 11-03-2006 - 10:56pm |
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Edited 9/12/2009 1:41 pm ET by alsmith32
Edited 9/12/2009 1:41 pm ET by alsmith32
| Fri, 11-03-2006 - 10:56pm |
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I think this is good advice. Once something happened the best thing to do is accept it. As long as it's not going to happen again, of course.
"I know the feeling of needing to be rescued. ...Some would say it's a need for attention which I half agree and half disagree with."
The reason I want to be rescued is, life is hard. I don't want attention and in fact can't stand to be the center of attention. But life is hard and I want to be rescued from all that stuff...like paying bills, driving, getting and keeping a job, driving to that job, etc.
allie
Allie,
I'm sorry your therapist made you feel worse and not better.
Maybe she was in shock instead of being mad at you. I'm not sure why she would be mad at you.
I'm glad you're processing things. There's no right or wrong way to feel, no way you "should" or "should not" feel. Emotions don't follow rules like that.
"The reason I want to be rescued is, life is hard. I don't want attention and in fact can't stand to be the center of attention. But life is hard and I want to be rescued from all that stuff...like paying bills, driving, getting and keeping a job, driving to that job, etc."
Yes I totally understand. That's how I feel too. I don't want attention. I want things to change and I can't seem to make it happen on my own. That's when we need people to be there for us. Sometimes it would be so nice to take a break from all of our responsibilities, bills etc.
Be sure to take some time for yourself, that will make living life a bit easier and don't be afraid to ask for help when you need it.
And keep posting.
This is the first time I have been to this board and I have not read all the responses to your post. I just hooked on your comment that you are "not in God's grace anyway" and sweetie it is impossible for you to not be in God's Grace. You are Gods living enterprise!
As for your thing with this other guy - maybe you needed someone to remind you that you are alive and you deserve to feel passion and desire. It is whatever ever you think it to be. You could easily focus on the need to keep feeding that feeling or you could just as easily appreciate the wake-up call and use it as an impetus to make positive changes in your life that value you.
If your therapist judges you - get a new therapist. We cannot make positive changes in our lives when we burden oursleves with guilt, shame and judgment. Love yourself enough to appreciate the good and learn from that which does not support your happiness and well being. Judgment has no place in the equation.
Wonderfully said, sjmystic and welcome to the board! Hugs, Lori
Edited 9/12/2009 1:39 pm ET by alsmith32
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