totally embarrassed myself lastnight!
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| Sun, 01-07-2007 - 7:14pm |
last night I went to dh's holiday party for his company. it was held in a very nice hall and the food was good. I got up to go and get a drink and i was walking by a table that was right by the dance floor. well i slipped in something wet and down i went! I was so embarrassed. there was a table of young people sitting there (i'm 40) and they helped me up and asked if i was ok. all i could feel was pain in my ribs and pain in my chest (i'm still hurting a lot from the rib damage and the cpr) I made out into the opening where you come in and sat there for a few minutes. later on my dh's friends wife came looking for me. The vice president of the company had seen me fall and went and told my dh. he couldn't find me and thought i went to the Ladies room and sent her looking for me. I've got bruises on my elbow wrist and knee from where i fell but i'm ok other wise. I was angry that no one that worked there came to ask if i was ok and there were plenty of employees in there. after i cought my breath and got myself together i went back in and when people started coming over to me to ask if i was ok, i kinda just made a joke of it. I told them i'm ok but i'm lucky i got the first door prize of the night i got a good trip. they laughed and it seemed to smooth things over. i just didn't want all the attention and would rather everyone forget what happened.
what made me mad thoguh is my dh drank too much made a fool of himself and I had to drive home! it's getting to where i hate to go to these because he ends up drinking too much and acting like a fool. he didn't like totaly embarrass me it was just the fact that after we leave and get him home then i have to deal with a drunk and i'm tired of it!
Robin

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CPR? You needed CPR OMG!
Anyway, dealing with a drunk is no fun, you're right. Does this happen often? Maybe you need to work with dh about his drinking and/or behaviour when you are out together. I don't know how to deal with it in a spousal situation. I come from a long line of alcoholics so the only drinker I knew was my father.
Well I guess I'm pretty useless, but I'm sending many hugs.
Hey Robin,
CPR? You needed CPR OMG!
Yes when i was in the hospital for the fall and phnemonia they gave me dilaudid and i had a reaction to it that put me in respitory arrest and they had to bag me and then do cpr from there. I can tell you it was definitly an eye opener and i've been trying to look at life in a different way. It's hard, it's very hard, but i've been trying.
Also when my dh drinks he gets happy and loosens up so i don't mind if he has a few drinks it's when he goes over board which he seems to do at this party every year and maybe 2 or 3 times during the year. but it's the after affects when we go home or everyone leaves that i have to deal with him saying he's sorry and he hopes no one hates him and he hopes he didn't make a fool of himself. Everyone gets a kick out of him when he drinks cause he is such a squid most of the time and when he has a few he loosens up and has a good time. but he doesn't know when to quit and then i have to deal with a sloppy drunk getting him into bed and keeping him there or him crying and saying he's sorry. after a while it really gets to you.
I lived with my mother who was an alcaholic and i can tell you it wasn't fun. and i'm not going to put up with him becoming one. I've tried to talk to him about this sense saturday but he just brushes it off. next time i'm tempted to leave his butt somewhere!
Robin
I'm glad you drove home and that he was smart enough at least to not get behind the wheel. Too many people out there think "it won't happen to me" in situations like that.
That is one thing i can give him credit for. if he drinks he doesn't drive. he always hands me the keys and with our kids we know that one of us always has to stay sober. it's usually me though. I can say he is responsible enough to know that drinking and driving doesn't mix and we have drilled that into our kids heads. i tell them all the time I hope you don't drink, i pray you don't drink but if you ever get into a situation you call me or call a cab!. so far i've been lucky that they don't drink and they don't go out. my oldest is 19 and when she goes to the college clubs she is the designated driver always.
Robin
My husband frequently drinks too much. It really sucks doesn't it?
Lin
I keep trying that. when i start to see that he's reached that level i'll tell him no more. or try to put it in a funny way and say ok bud we're cutting you off now. that didn't work so i started telling him in a serious tone and that didn't work either. what makes me mad is we discussed it on the way to the party and he promised me he wouldn't get like that.
Well last night I was in a bad place. the kids were all acting up, he was trying to help one of our dd's with her math and that just became a screaming match between them and i hadn't taken my xanax so i knew to go and take it, my ribs were hurting and i was really feeling it. so i drank 1 too many glasses of wine. when i drink i get all lovey dovey and he kept telling me he didn't like it when i got like that. well i kept telling him touch you had your turn now it's mine! he wouldn't say too much because he knew it would set me off. yep i'm feeling a little bit of a headache today but i think he got the hint last night lol
Robin
Hey Robin,
I agree with everything you said. they said whats good for the goose is good for the gander but it's really not good for anyone. and it does send mixed messages to the kids. They have seen us both like that and they really shouldn't. It does give the kids a false sense of what alcahol does. I think it exasperbates (sp) the persons mood they are in.
I've been trying to have talks with him but he doesn't seem to want to talk. I called him at work yesterday and asked him why don't we go out. we went out to dinner and talked about things that weren't stressfull. we don't get out much by ourselves so it was kinda nice to just sit eat and talk about things that didn't matter. I think we need to have a night to ourselves in the house where we can really discuss things where the kids won't hear. Kids hear more then you think they do and they see more then you think they do. Me having too much to drink lastnight was dumb on all accounts because even though the kids were in bed i'm sure they still picked up something and i'm not supposed to drink on the meds i'm taking let alone the crohn's.
Usually when i've had too much i use it as a crutch to get passed some feelings i've had. i watched my mother be an alcaholic and i don't want to use alcahol like that. it's ok to have an ocasional glass of wine but i had 3 last night and should have only had a half if that. I was in a resentful mood last ngiht because of what happened at the party and then with his screaming so much last night i wanted to just forget for a while.
I think i need to get into an activity and do something else when things get out of control because they definitly where last night.
thanks Lori you always help me to see things in another light and a different way.
robin
Hey Robin,
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