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| Wed, 01-17-2007 - 1:58am |
today i didn' have the little one i watch.mom decided to take the da off and keep her with her. I came home from my friends home (last night there this week) And took my dd to the eye dr. and dropped her off at school. i went home and laid down for about 2 hours i was tired and hurting.I got up and did some cleaning around the house and just watched a movie on tv. i got some cleaning down but when the kids came home it was an argment from 2:30 till about 8 pm tonight. the constant bickering argueing nane calling and them yelling at me i just couldn't take anymore. my dh supported me in the behavior punishments we handed out which didn't mean they were going to accept them. the 3 of t6he 17 15 and almost 13 year old decidedd they were going to be the worse. the when my 19 year old got off she called to say she was going to her aunts hourse to spend the night.a i told her um no you have a huge mes in your room to clean and it stinks. she said she wasn't going to come home to night. I told he fine i'd take care of it and hung up. she called right back and i was down stairs in her room picking things off the floor and puttng it in trash ags. i'm tired of the mcdonals cups he wendy's cups and the kfc stuff laying around. se had a kfc cup that had sat there for so long tht the soda had leaked out the bottom or the cup and had leaked all over her desk. I fouund a very expensive ring tht her grandmother gave her when she was in the 7th grade she is now 19 i took the ing and i hid it from her. i told her if she wasn't responsibl enough to hold onto something that meant that much she did't deserve to have it. aat first i was going to call my mil and tell her where i found the ring but thought better of it and i didn't want to upset it. so it is in a good keeping place for now. I calledmy sil and my dd and told them both they have until sunday after noon to get their stuff and junk out of my garage or it is going to the dump monday morning. my friend and her usband are out of town sundayt hrough tuesday and he told me i could use the truck as much as i want an get rid of as much juni as i wanted soi'm going to take advantage and start cleaning out some major junk cluttering up my house.
I had to take a xanax today for the first time in 4 day! why is it that yor kids drive ou insane
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robin

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hi robin, i sympathize with you. your kids drive you insane because they can. it seems like when i am at my lowest my two boys get into it the worst. sometimes i think they are trying to distract me from the way i am feeling and feel that if i shift the focus onto them, i will forget about the way i feel. othertimes i think that aliens have inhabitated my kids bodies and i am not sure exactly who they are. i use to just hold on until the next day. they eventually had to go to school, didn't they? as a stay at home mom, i always dread the weekends. can't wait for monday to come because here comes school. as a working mom, i couldn't wait for weekends, no work until monday. can't win for losing.
susan
Hey Robin,
Robin, the beginning of your day was more productive than any of mine have been so pat yourself on the back for that.
I can understand that parenting teens is hard. I live with three teens/preteens. I think you are right to stick with your punishment. I don't think you should have been the one cleaning their rooms. They are old enough to do it, but you know my mother did the same thing (taking away things that she had to pick up) and it worked.
I don't know what else to say. I'm sorry. I know I can be pretty useless at times.
Hugs,
yes they went to school today. after many hours of argueing i agreed to pick my dd up from school today (the one that will be 17) well i get to her school and she isn't there!!! i wait and wait and wait a half hour goes by and she doesn't come out of the school. I finally call her celphone and she answered and told me she was already home and that yes she saw me but decided that after last night she didn't want to ride with me! I was livid. so i took the little one out for a ice cream did some shopping at the dollar store and met her mother at the parking lot and just hung around till my dh was due home. unfortunatly he was late getting home. The kids were nasty but not as bad as last night and my son had his first asthma attack in almost 5 years!! he decided to get the tilex and help me by cleaning my shower! I told him as much as i appreciated his help and his kindness that i didn't want him using chemicals because they were dangerous. so a ruined brand new pair of pants because he also used soft scrub with bleach mixed with the tylex! a call the the asthma/allergist and some meds and he is doing fine now but i have to watch him all night so it will be a sleepless night tonight!!!
Robin
I understand what you saying about invading her space and taking it from her.
We had an agrement that she would pay rent. she is months behindn it $1,000.00 behind. Plus she keeps coming home with new clothes or things and telling me her frind bought them for her. but she can't pay her car payment or her ins. or anything else. her room stinks from all the dirty clothes all over the floor and the food laying around. When i talked to her on the phone i had had enough of her promising to clean her room and then putting it off. I'm waiting for the fire marshal to come and reinspect my home for my daycare license. i have one child in care and don't plan to take any more in but i have to have my license for this one. We had been telling my dd for months to either clean it or we would and we would throw stuff away. So when i went into her room and just started bagging stuff up I found the ring under a pile of dirty clothes. We bagged up 5 black trashbags of just stuff not including trash like the mcdonalds stuff and empty cady papers or empty chips bags or half full soda cans and stuff. I don't want mice or bugs in y home and we have ask her over and over to get it clean. so when she told me she would clean it when she got home last night i said good. then she called and said she wasn't coming home i told her that her deadline wss that night. she said it's her room and she'll do as she pleases. i told her it's my house and i'll get rid of the stinky clothes and stuff thrown on the floor. we put all the bags in the garage and she came home got them out and threw them on her floor in her bedroom. so she has till sunday afternoon to get the stuff out of her room and my sil to get her stuff out of my garage (she moved out of our house nov. 1st) or it was all going to the dump. i'm tired of cleaning up messes after disgusting people and i'm just going to start throwing things away. I have the ring in a safe place and when she shows that she can take better care of her belongings i'll give it back to her. I think later in life when i do give it back to her she may appreciate me taking it from her so she will have it later. My mil has given her other jewlry through the years and because she isn't very responsible she has lost it. i'm hoping that this ring (it was given to my mil from her husband who has passed awy) in the future will mean more to her then it does now and i'm hoping she will actually be glad that i took it from her in her irresponsible years.
Robin
Hey Robin,
her pay her rent would be helpful but what we do with it is we keep half of it to help pays some bills but the other half goes into a bank account that she doesn't know about and when she is ready to move out buy her first house then i will hand the money to her and explain where it came from. we are doing planning on doing this with all the kids. Its for her own good and the health of our family that she keeps this disgusting mess cleaned up. a cup of milk that has sat for so long that has turned solid to me is disgustint and i won't have it any more in my house even if it is her room!
Robin
Robin,
I like your idea of saving up money for your kids. My parents never did any of that. I had to pay my own way through university and my own rent. My mom
Hey Robin,
I haven't been home sense yesterday and when i walked in tonight she had done quite a bit on her room. i was very very surprised that she did. now if i can get her to do the rest of it and to get my sil to come get her stuff i'll be doing good.
Robin
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