Very concerned about one of my teens

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Registered: 10-15-2006
Very concerned about one of my teens
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Fri, 01-19-2007 - 11:58am

my dd D will be 13 in march. We bought this house last march and moved to a different school district. at the old neighborhood were two girls that my girls didn't get along with. these kids were unsupervised all the time one of them is 15 one of my dd's age and they used to be friends the other one is my other dd's age 12 and the boy is my sons age 10. well after listening to their language how they behaved and how they acted and the one 15 started a bunch of rumors in the school i kept my kids away from them. it got worse and their mother came up to my house and was screaming at me and yelling at me and i shut the door in her face and said thats it no more. after that we avoided them even more. the whole neighborhood saw what she did and avoided them also. they would let their kids associate with them either because of their behavior. well then the emails started flying and they were very nasty ones. in one of the emails the oldest girl had said " i hate your mom and i'd kill her myself if i could" then while my kids were outside riding a bike they would knock them off or throw a skate board at them. it really became nasty and violent. i ended up filing and recieveing a Peace order against the family. We have sense moved and now the oldest girl friend requested my dd on her new my space. so my dd accepted it thinking it wa another girl from her knew school. we the comments started to fly ( i check her my space regulary because she isn't old enough to have one) well they started making comments and the oldest one said to my dd some pretty nasty things about me and then my dd got an email from her that stated "your mother had you thanks to a old used comdon she found in a parking lot"!!!! now this just digusts me. my dd doesn't know i've seen this yet and i'm wondering what to do about it. i've blocked this girl from my dd's site and i don't want to delete it yet till i find out if there are any legal ramifications i can do here. my dd was getting nasty also like telling this girl she was dirty and nasty and she smells so she is just as guilty but i feel this one is totally uncalled for. my dd doesn't have access to a computer now because of her mis use of it and she knows it now. i didn't tell her about the last comment that the girl sent because she hasn't read it yet and she isn't going to.

what do you guys think? is this something I can take to court or will they laugh at us? or should i8 just let it go and pretend it didn't exist and delete the my space page all together?

Robin

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Registered: 08-02-2005
Fri, 01-19-2007 - 3:18pm

I can't believe all you and your family have endured from this other family.


I don't know what to say except have her start a new myspace and not let the girl be on her friends list. That is unless you can block or remove someone from your friend's list. I feel like I should do something with my myspace just to stay with the times lol.

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Amanda

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Registered: 02-12-2004
Fri, 01-19-2007 - 3:22pm

Hey Robin,


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Fri, 01-19-2007 - 4:31pm
The best way to deal with really hostile, aggressive people is to avoid them. It's just bad energy from these people and they give their bad energy to everyone they meet. If she can block them from myspace that's the best way.
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Registered: 10-15-2006
Sat, 01-20-2007 - 7:41pm

I recieved the last peace order because of the mothers reaction and because of the daughters comment about wanting to kill me if she could. i printed out every single exchange of email between her and my kids ( and my kids were guilty of things too) and showed it to the judge and was imm. given a peace order. it lasted 6 months and then we moved and my kids changed schools. I thought it was over but obviosly it isn't. My kids don't have access to the computer right now or the tv because of their behavior. we have something called UberDaddy that we check where they are on the computer and my dh can check it from work. I have their passwords to their my space and i check it regularly that is how i found the email. I did block her from my dd's my space but didn't delete the message yet!

sense i wrote the origionally post i've been at the hospital with my son. i'll explain in another post. i'm just trying to deal with him right now and then i'll figure out what to do about this nasty little girl with the foul mouth.

God i'm so tired right now but i want to wait until 8:30 to call the hospital and check on my son.

Robin