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| Sat, 01-20-2007 - 7:52pm |
I left my home sometime after 12 yesterday to go to my therapist appt. 1 hour before my appt. i got a call from my son's school ( he is bipolar, ad/hd, odd, ocd). He didn't meet a goal that he had set for himself so he couldn't join in a ice cream party that the class was having. he turned 11 on jan. 7th. he is in a classroom support setting. He flipped over his desk and chair and was threatening to kill the other kids in his class on the way home. then he threatened to kill himself over the weekend. The school counselor told me it took 3 adults to restrain him.
I had my friend and her husband (both cops and very very close friends) pick him up from school because i was more than an hour away and they were 15 minutes away. so they met me at the hospital and because he told the dr.'s and nurses there exactly how he was going to kill himself he was admited to the hospital. by 10 pm last night he had been admitted but there were no beds av. in our state. so we spent the night in the ER. finally at 1 pm today he was transferred by ambo to another hospital. He is in the childrens physic ward. It tore me up to leave him there. we spent many hours talking last night about why he is the way he is and i explained to him that he had a chemical imbalance in his brain and the medicine that he takes helps to put them chemicals there. He said he hates god for making him this way and it isn't fair that he is the only one in our family who has it. I explained to him that he isn't the only one and i explained on his level that I have the same issues that he does. He climbed on my lap (he is a big kid ) and he hugged me and he told me thank you for telling me i don't feel so alone now. He kept crying off and on through the night because he knew he would have to spend a few days there (this isn't his first hospital stay). when my dh and i finally left the hospital today he told us to go ahead and go because he wanted to watch the movie that the other kids were watching. I called at 6pm and talked to him and he was very agitated. I was able to get him calmed down a bit and then i talked to the staff there and explained what he was so agitated about and they said they could fix the problem ( he didn't want to wear a hospital gown and i just couldn't drive that far tonight to take him clothes). so i'm waiting till 8:30 which is bed time to see how he is. It's going to be a very very long night and i know i'm not going to sleep well just knowing he is there and feeling so gulty about leaving him there when it is the last place on earth i would be.
Robin

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Oh Robin... I'm so sorry you and your ds are having to deal with this! I know we as adults have a hard time dealing not only with intense emotional pain at times but also with psych. units and so I understand the guilt/sadness you must feel but really hon, he is where he must be right now to ensure he is safe and on the correct medications for his conditions.
Yes Lori, i've been watching tv trying to read a book. eating looking around on the computer and just trying to stay busy. i'm going to see him tomorrow night from 6 to 7. I called the nurses station around 9 and they said he was sleeping well. they provided a pair of sweap pants and a t shirt for him to wear to bed so that was able to get his aggitated state under control. now if i can just get through tomorrow and see my therapist on monday i'll be doing good.
i'm just sitting here feeling so guilty. my one dd the one that will be 17 hates me right now she was i was a horrible person for putty my son in a hospital and she said that no good mother would do that to her child. i'm trying to hold onto the fact that she isn't even 17 years old yet and her brain is still growing too and she doesn't fully understand what is going on.
Robin
You are going through so much right now with both of your kids. You definately are doing the right thing though. You are a great support system for ds, please dont feel guilty for his situation. You did the best thing for him by talking and explaining things to him. As for dd, I remember being a teen too and if you can take it with a grain of salt. I am thinking about you. Let us know how it is going with him and how you are handling everything. We can help you get through it too.
Jessica
Hey Robin,
Robin,
I'm so sorry that your ds has to deal with this stuff so young. It's a scary but true fact in our society.
I hope that the i/p stay is helpful and not to hard on all of you.
Let us know how things go.
Today my oldest (19) got sent home from work early and wanted to go her brother. i told her to come home because i was going and we would ride together. we got there and he was happy to see us. he showed us his room and introduced us to his room mate (he couldn't remember the boys name lol) we put his clothes and his snacks away and then i played a game of battle ship with him. we don't have that game and he said he really likes it and if he worked hard to get out of the hospital could he take his birthday money from his aunt and buy the game. I told him yes that was a good goal to work towards.
They also have a goal system where they earn rubber braclets and at the end of the night they can trade them in for a small prize or save them up for a bigger prize. yesterday he got to the hospital around 1 pm and by bed time he had earned 10 braclets and saved them. today by 8pm he had earned an additional 14 and was going to save them. He did have a few agitated episodes today and he said when he was with the dr. that the dr. was trying to make him mad by asking him a lot of questions and the same ones over and over. i asked him what he did and he said he held his anger in till he got out of the dr.'s office and then went and found a toy to take his anger and frustration out on. I told him that's not really a good idea that he should let the dr. know that he was angry and frustrated because that is what he needs to do is express his anger in good ways not by taking it out on a toy. I plan to talk to the dr. about it tomorrow to make sure he was aware of his agitated state during the conversation.
I will be going again to see him tomorrow at 6 and i'm supposed to meet with the social worker and the dr. to come up with a plan for him.
Thanks for you thoughts and prayers for us i really can feel them.
Robin
Hey Robin,
Well our meeting with the social worker was cancled tonight. so my dh went without me. and my dd the 17 year old one called her dad and asked if she could go too. i'm shocked. but she is the one who doesn't believe he needs to be there and that i'm a horrible mother for him being there. welll hopefuly she see the place. I want to say and she will se that its not that bad but i can't say that because to me it is a bad place. i've had bad experiences there and so has my son. hopefully this is a good place for him though.
we go tomorrow at 2 to find out what the plan is. He has told me before that he knows how to "play the system to get out" he is only 11 years old and he knows that already. he told me that he just makes sure he doesn't get in fights or get angry while he is there so they will send him home. i asked him why he couldn't control himself in other places and he said because those aren't jail like this is. that wasn't too settling for me to hear but i knwo what he means. when i was in i just told them what they wanted to hear and played the system till i got out.
I just hope they get his meds worked out.
robin
Hi Robin,
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