Isolated

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Mon, 01-22-2007 - 4:05pm

Saturday was a bad day. I had invited my parents over but my dad got sick so they cancelled. I was so lonely, I couldn't think of anyone else who would drive that far to see me. I was also not in a calm enough state to drive so I was trapped home alone all day and I felt like a zombie. I had abosolutely nothing to do except feel miserable and no one to talk to.

Sunday was a better day. I had invited my friend R and her kids to go see a movie with me, and she picked me up so I didn't have to drive. She is my only friend in this area and I don't want to seem desperate and plus she is always really busy (unlike me) so I rarely see her. It was good to see her and I hope they had a good time.

On Sunday I also made DH's Valentine's Card, and it came out really good.

But I'm just so isolated. I was telling my Mom that no one has time for me- and she had to get off the phone becuase she was too busy to talk! I don't know if she saw the irony but I know she didn't really understand becuase my parents are as busy as R, they don't know how it feels to have too much time.

I really am getting sick of it that no one seems to have time for me, time for friends or family. I have friends but they all live so far away. I just got an email from an old friend- who lives across the country from me. I guess we won't be seeing each other any time soon.

I feel like I make all the effort to get together with people, like this weekend I invited everyone and my parents canclled. I thought of what to do and when to do it. Why doesn't anyone take the initiative and make the effort and invite me? Frankly I'm sick and tired of always being the one to try to invite people over and somehow always ending up alone anyway.

When I was in high school it wasn't like this at all. I had friends fighting over who would spend time with me! And I was definately not popular, but I was a good friend and people appreciated that. I got so many invitations that I had to say no sometimes just so I could have time alone! I'm the same person now, so I don't think it's me.

Adults in this society don't seem to have time for anyone except their spouse and kids. And even my parents don't have time to come see me! No wonder so many people are depressed. And really I think that most people do have time for friends if they chose to make it.




Edited 1/22/2007 4:10 pm ET by bluerains
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Mon, 01-22-2007 - 6:28pm

Hey Blue,


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In reply to: bluerains
Mon, 01-22-2007 - 8:43pm

Hi Lori,

A long distance relationship must be really hard. How did you two meet? Did you already live so far apart at that time?

We went to see Charlotte's Web. I tried to choose something that would be appropriate for kids and decent for adults. It was really good- exactly like the book!

When I say R is busy I mean that whenever we do try to plan something, it's really hard because she has almost no free time! For instance, for this movie we had to call each other 3 times and think really hard to find a time. Then, I had hoped to make dinner for them afterwards but they had something else planned and could not come over for dinner. They had something planned for before AND after the movie- and that is normal for her!

I do not have the energy or the desire for such a hectic life, but at the same time I don't want to stay home alone all the time either.

I do go to the library weekly. I spend most of my free time reading.

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Mon, 01-22-2007 - 10:20pm

Hey Blue,


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Mon, 01-22-2007 - 11:04pm

Unfortuantely it's a sad fact that some of our friends won't be calling us to make plans and we have to do all to the work. It can make a friendship feel very one-sided.


I'm sorry that your Saturday was bad but glad Sunday was better. Hold on to those good days.

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Amanda

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In reply to: bluerains
Tue, 01-23-2007 - 9:34am
Hi Blue,
Im so sorry that it worked out that way for you. I know you were really looking forward to that visit and also to try and take up some of your time. If you lived near me, I would hang out with you! I am on the east coast.
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Jessica
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In reply to: bluerains
Tue, 01-23-2007 - 4:39pm

Well I can't win! I had scheduled a spa appointment today as a "reward" for making it this far, and I've been looking forward to it. I was going to get a massage and facial.

So I went early and was all excited and yes, it got cancelled. The massage therapist could not make it.

I just want to bring a little happiness into my life, why is it so difficult?




Edited 1/23/2007 4:40 pm ET by bluerains
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In reply to: bluerains
Tue, 01-23-2007 - 6:39pm
Sometimes the cards just seem to be stacked against us. Have you heard of biorhythms? Maybe this is just a trough in your natural body's rhythm. The good thing about the lows is that they always are followed by highs!

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Amanda

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Wed, 01-24-2007 - 12:44pm
I feel the same way. Why am I hitting all these road blocks I just want a happy life.Instead I think I may end up ending my life it is so hard right now. I wish we lived close to one another we would be able to lean on each other more.