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| Tue, 02-20-2007 - 10:37am |
I think my husband is having an affair. This is nothing new and I usually try to think everything is ok but I am so depressed and hurt. All the signs are there and I am so sick to my stomach. Don't know what to do. Are online affairs really affairs too?
Jessica
Jessica

Oh Jessica i feel horrible for you. Have you asked him? there are times in our marriage that i thought my dh was seeing someone else. i followed up on it and turned out that he wasn't it was my insecurities. now if he were to have an affair it would devistate me. Before i married my dh now i was engaged to another guy F and we were living togehter when i came home from work early one day because i was sick i found one of my very best friends there it hurt me and well suicidal thoughts and feelings is what was the resort. I tried to kill myself. i ended up in the icu and he came to see me. I found out later that the whole time he was in my hospital room she was outside the door listening and waiting. I thought we were going to get back together but it didn't happpen it took me a while to get over it but then i met my dh and to get the trust from him that i needed was hard. i told him what happened to me and he has always been very understanding about my insecurities.
I hope and I pray that he isn't cheating on you and if he is that you find peace and love with someone else. It's not the end of the world you will come through this. you just have to have some faith in yourself.
Robin
Oh Jessica, I'm so sorry to hear that! I know it must be devastating for you but, as others mentioned, I wonder if you've asked him outright and what has he said? (NOT that he'd admit it--although I suppose some do.) What makes you think he is cheating on you? Have you found incriminating evidence online? And yes, for what it's worth, it is STILL cheating even if it's on the internet. It's a betrayal of trust--and can be every bit as devastating as an "in person" affair because emotional intimacy tends to develop very quickly on the net. There's this false sense of security that comes into play and some people drop their defenses way too quickly.