the ugly truth

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Registered: 04-01-2003
the ugly truth
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Thu, 02-22-2007 - 11:25am
Well here it goes... My husband D had a myspace acct with over 250 women on it. My friend created a phony acct and he took the bait. I caught him and he lied and said he cant access his acct. he lied right to my face, deleted the acct and created a new one. A couple of months a go he said his friend LJ was having marital problems too and he was helping him out talking. He would spend hours talking to him outside then he came clean and told me it wasnt LJ but a girl. He took a weekend to another city to take a career test and never got the results to this day. He was fired from a good job due to excessive internet use and claims he was using google and they didnt understand what google was. On and on and on. You get the picture. He is constantly online and I mean from the time he gets home to the time he goes to bed. He actually told me that if he wanted to hide something from me on the computer that there would be no way I would ever find it. I am so miserable. It has been 9 years of this off and on and I always think things have changed and then boom the bomb drops again.
Broken hearted,
Jessica
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Registered: 03-09-2005
Thu, 02-22-2007 - 3:09pm

Jessica,

You don't deserve this. It sounds like your DH is addicted to cheating.

I'll tell you the truth, my DH is addicted to internet porn. He's been going to 12 step groups and therapy for it but he says he will never be "cured"- he'll always be tempted to look at it. But these groups help him stay "sober" and have a more normal life.

I hate that my husband is obssesed with porn. I've drawn a line though. I told him (and promised myself) that if he ever cheats on me it will be the end of our marraige. I deserve a faithful husband- and so do you!

I encourage you to join a support group too so you can understand what's going on. They have specific support groups for spouses of sex addicts. I think I posted the link awhile ago, but if you'd be interested I can look for it again.

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Registered: 07-11-2006
Thu, 02-22-2007 - 6:50pm
Jess, I'm so sorry you are going through this. Give yourself a few days to calm down, then talk with your husband. Have you two ever considered counseling? If he's not willing to change, you need to ask yourself if you can ever be happy while putting up with all of this nonsense.
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Registered: 02-12-2004
Thu, 02-22-2007 - 9:15pm

Hey Jessica,


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