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| Fri, 02-23-2007 - 12:56pm |
Thanks you all for your support. I have spent 9 years with this on and off. Counseling doesnt work. He is not interested we have tried. The other night I did a dance for him and got dressed in something nice and he let me carry on for an hour and then went to bed, yuck. I have woken up before with him gone. Business trips with no reason. Coming home from my parents house early to find our pictures gone or moved. His myspace had our first married pic of us minus me yes, he cut me out and posted himself. Talking to a girl at work and lying that it was his friend LJ (a guy). telling me we should get separated. Last night I asked him why he feels the need to lie about little things (big ones too) and he said point blank, deal with it if you are with me or leave me. Then he played his famous head game and appologized. It is all my fault, he doesnt know what i want from him. I kid you not, he wont even look me in the face when I talk and he ignores me. I cry all the time. No wonder I ended up on suicide watch in the hospital. H e blamed me for that too telling me not to tell anyone anything or the kids would be taken away from me. What do you all think. Please help.

Hey Jess,
I think you've seen his true colors. He won't change. I think you should leave him in the dust and go be happy without him.
The other option is to stay with him, but accept that he will never change.
There are 2 big problems with option 2.
Problem One: He may give you an STD.
Problem Two: You may miss out on any number of decent guys you could be with, because you're with him.
However, in the end it's up to you. Just be honest with yourself and realistic about this guy when you're thinking it over. There are decent guys out there... you deserve a good man.
I'm trying to be objective like Lori was but you can probably tell I think you deserve better! I also don't believe chronic cheaters will change. My Dh can't even stop looking at porn even though he supposedly wants to. Addictions are tough like that.
Edited 2/23/2007 5:23 pm ET by bluerains