we will work on it

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Registered: 04-01-2003
we will work on it
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Wed, 02-28-2007 - 12:27pm
My husband and I decided to work on things. Please dont be mad at me. He is a good daddy to our girls and he says things when he is mad. The girls dont see us fight, only argue every once in a while and then make up, nothing major and it shows that people do argue but we resolve it and move on. This is what I want and he said that he wants to change and be more happy and communicate with me more. He has actually tried, along with periods of being his usual clam self, but I see an effort. I have to say that Im not the easiest person to get along with either so I have to come clean on that, it is not all his fault. I can be quite a pain. Im not blaming myself, he did lie and put me through a lot but in the past 6 months, I quit my job for health reasons, he lost his job, we lost our car and our credit got ruined. This would send anyone through a tough time. Thanks for all of your support and I have my pdoc appt tomorrow and I will talk to her about it and a tdoc appointment next week too. I think things can be salvaged, I am hopeful.
Jessi
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Registered: 02-12-2004
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 9:14pm

Hey Jessi,


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Registered: 07-11-2006
Thu, 03-01-2007 - 10:34am
Again, I admire you for being so strong, and putting your girls first. Lot's of people will head to divorce court over pettiness. If there is some way to make your marriage better, I DO think you should work on it. Even happily married couples will tell you as good as their marriage is, it's NOT wine and roses like alot of people think it is. I hope everything turns out for you and your family. I'm sure it will if you are both serious about making it work.
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Registered: 03-09-2005
Thu, 03-01-2007 - 3:47pm

I wouldn't be mad at you or judge you.

My marraige has been very challenging too. Money problems, fighting, unemployment, jealousy, mean inlaws, etc. It's not the fairy tale we all want as young girls. I wonder if any marraige is?

But so far we have kept trying also. We love each other. And it's not all bad. We have good memories too.




Edited 3/1/2007 3:49 pm ET by bluerains