Still a little sad, but got some closure
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Still a little sad, but got some closure
| Sun, 03-04-2007 - 7:55pm |
The ex wrote me a long email. He explained that he still cared for me, and is sorry for anything he ever did or said to make me feel bad. His reason for breaking up with me was NOT another girl or anything like that. He thought we both had alot of things that we should figure out on our own before we started a serious relationship. He lives with his mother, and has been thinking about getting his own place. But, there's no money for that right now, so he's thinking of taking some classes like me. He just doesn't know what he wants to go to school for. He admits that he's not too happy with his life right now. And I was always gloomy, and he could never seem to make me happy, which made him feel like a failure. He felt that he made things worse sometimes, and we argued alot when we were together. He DEMANDED that I find happiness on my own before I thought about getting into another relationship. Maybe it's not his place to say that really, but he's right. I know now we aren't getting back together, but it's nice to know he still cares about me as a person.

I am so glad you got some closure--even though you know that at least for now, there will be no getting back together.
Two things impress me as I read your post... First, your maturity in handling something so difficult but also, I have to give him some credit too. Because as you say, "DEMAND" is a rather forceful word--but yes, he is right! Some of life's most painful lessons center around what we were probably told as kids but thought sounded so "dumb" coming out of our parents and/or teachers mouths...."First you have to learn to love yourself...learn what makes YOU happy!"