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| Fri, 06-15-2007 - 2:20pm |
Hi everyone,
My name is Shelly and I am 21 years old. Almost 4 months ago, a teacher at my college committed suicide. He was 39 years old. I did not know him very well, but I did have a few conversations with him about a year prior to his death. I am having trouble dealing with it. He has 2 little girls, ages 4 and 2. He had a girlfriend, who was the one who found him after he committed suicide. He had been divorced about a year.
I guess I just need some tips on how to handle this. I mean, I really didn't know him well, but I am having a hard time understanding it. It is real hard to go into the Math building and walk by his office, and know that he will never be there again. I am a Math major, so I am always in that building, but it is just tough, you know?
Anyways, any thoughts or advice that you guys might have are GREATLY appreciated.
Shelly/21/TX


Hi Shelly and welcome to the board... I am glad you found us and decided to post for some support!
I am so sorry to hear of the loss of the teacher at your college. I can imagine that sent "shock waves" rippling through the entire student body AND faculty--not to mention those closest to him! I am sure there are many unanswered questions going through everyone's mind as well. And I won't insult you or anyone by pretending to know the answer's to those.
Just wanted to sneak in here & welcome you a bit belatedly, Shelly! This must be very distressing to you. I am wondering if you have ever had experience in the loss of someone close. I am NOT suggesting that it becomes easier. It does not. Any death, even an expected one makes a great impact on us. This suicide seems so needless & puzzling, that it stands to reason, it is more intense.
Please don't hesitate to seek help to start you on your way through the grieving process. As a student, there may be counseling available through the health program of your school. Maybe you would appreciate the support of a group. I went to a grief support group after the death of my only sister. It was free