sisters

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Registered: 12-05-2006
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Wed, 07-18-2007 - 10:21am

I just recently had a disagreement with my sister. This has happened a few times in the past few years. But this one was one of the worst. Anyway, I called her and apologized (for something I didn't do) just to make peace so things would go smoothly at my grandson's birthday party.

Anyway, I feel my sister has a closer relationship with my daughter than I do. I feel like my daughter listens to what she says more than what I say. I feel like my sister talks to my daughter and finds out what is going on with her before I do. My sister has her own two daughters of approx. the same age. I wish she would have her daughters and let me have mine. She likes to get involved in peoples lives and I feel like she oversteps her boundaries when it comes to my daughter AND my grandson. I've told her this and she thinks she has the right to talk to my daughter as much as she wants. I just wish she would just butt out and quit hogging the show.

She also thinks she is a know-it-all so that's why I've always confided in her and told her my problems. Now for some reason she doesn't want to hear my problems anymore yet she keeps asking me how I'm doing and how this and that is going in my life. I'm confused. I'm getting mixed messages from her. She angrily told me not to email her at work anymore because she doesn't have time to email me from her work yet she keeps emailing me. And I answer her back with very short replies. I shouldn't email her at all when she is at work. I should tell her that. I should remind her that she told me not to email her at work anymore. That would probably make her mad. But at this point I don't really care. I kind of want her to leave me and my children alone.

I don't think I really want to talk to her or see her anymore unless absolutely necessary. I always depended on her for sisterhood but I don't want her to get nasty with me again. I'm afraid to talk to her. I feel like I can't be myself with her anymore. And I really don't like her being so involved with my children. I've had it with her. I don't talk to her daughters nearly as much as she talks to mine. I just don't have that much to talk to them about. If I ask them how they are doing as much as my sister asks my daughter how she is doing I know they would get sarcastic with me and ask me if I was writing a book or something. I guess my daughter is just nicer than they are. Besides, her daughters have been nasty to me in the past. My daughters have not been nasty to my sister ever that I can remember. I didn't raise my daughters in a rude atmosphere. My sister had a troubled first marriage so I guess my nieces were raised in a difficult atmosphere. Well, I can't feel comfortable with them because of how they have treated me in the past possibly a result of how they were raised. I don't want to say much to them for fear of them saying something hurtful to me...again, as in the past.

This is all a very hurtful situation for me. I'm going to stop writing here because I'm starting to feel very upset. I suffer from depression and often want to just end it all. I'm really sick of all this c--p!

Thanks for listening.

Ruthann

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Registered: 02-12-2004
In reply to: aspenjuly
Wed, 07-18-2007 - 11:39pm

Hi Ruthann and welcome to the board. We are a safe, supportive community (as is the rest of ivillage!) and I hope you will hang out and let us get to know you--and vice versa!


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