Why do they feel so threatened?!?

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Registered: 01-25-2005
Why do they feel so threatened?!?
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Wed, 05-04-2005 - 10:20am

I am a student, doing a sports science course in London. A couple of weeks ago, we had a day trip for college down to the gym for some practical experience and then went out for lunch as a group. Much to my dismay, I found out that we were going to the local steak house (I am a strict vegetarian). It wouldn't have been so bad if the guy next to me hadn't ordered his steak rare (still dripping blood!) and then proceeded to push a piece of it under my nose and grill me about why I am vegetarian. I said that it was an ethics thing for me and I didn't want to eat anything that had had to suffer just for me to eat it. Of course, the longstanding argument came out: but plants have feelings too. WTH do you say to people like this?!?!?!?!?

I didn't remark on his eating a hunk of cow, why do I have to justify myself to him (and others too, in the past)? What can you say to people like this?

Sorry for the rant...

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-04-2005 - 4:21pm

1. plants don't have a nervous system that 'comprehends' suffering the way that animals do.

2. to them: stop being a pain in the you-know-what; i am not making judgements about your choices, i'm simply living as i see fit.

3. if you want more information, here's a pamphlet.

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Registered: 06-20-2003
Thu, 05-05-2005 - 3:07am

I also, when pressed with the "carrots hurt too" line, ask how they can without a nervous system!


I've also lost my appetite when meat was forced on me, and once or twice I've let people know that I gave up eating meat because I find it distasteful. Is my baked potato (salad, whatever you managed to find),

Jaseann

co-cl-Celiac Disease

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Registered: 05-22-2005
Tue, 05-24-2005 - 10:19pm

People like that are so ignorant and irritating. I would tell him that you've chosen a way of eating that suits you, and you are not obligated to justify that to him. You don't question why he eats that disgusting slab of meat, so he has no right to question why you choose to be vegetarian. And if he still doesn't let up, drop the diplomacy and tell him to him to find something more constructive to do with his time than badger people about silly things like diet. Hope you get him to shut up!

Veena :-)

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Registered: 10-11-2003
Thu, 06-09-2005 - 3:38am
what some people fail to realize is the difference between animals and plants is that plants dont have brains, hearts, eyes, ears and legs to move around on. Plants don't have to be shot in order for us to eat it. I've pretty much given up on arguing with people about it because if they're going to be arrogent enough to question you on your morals and ethics then they're going to be arrogent enough not to listen to what you have to say. I just wish people were able to have their own opinion about things without having to back it up with a reason and defend what they believe.
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Registered: 07-06-2004
Tue, 06-14-2005 - 2:09pm

It's tough dealing with people like this. I think they initially feel threatened because by saying you don't eat meat they think it implies that eating meat is wrong. They immediately try to defend themselves. My brother-in-law is the same way. I've found that explaining the health benefits causes more arguements than stating compassionate reasons for being vegetarian. Especially since some doctors think it's healthier and some don't. It's probably better that you explained it's more of a compassionate choice. When I'm confronted now I just stick with 'I don't like to eat animals. It's a personal thing.' Not many can argue with that but some will try. I've heard "God put animals here for us to eat." It can make you so mad-especially when it's family and friends grilling you. Now that my fiancee has stopped eating meat his family is convinced I converted him and push meat in his face when we go out to dinner. That's really fun.

My best advice is to find a group like this or a group in your city to join where you'll meet people with similar views. They can relate and calm you down. Good luck and stay strong! I'm glad you don't eat meat! :) whoo hoo