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| Thu, 04-24-2003 - 6:12pm |
You all know we are moving into my mom's house. This is necessary because we need the room. My problem is when I was 6 my dad's friend's brother molested me in the dining room and everytime I walk in there I remember. As if that wasn't bad enough when I was 11 and at a neighbors's with other kids I was molested by the girl's father. Of course this man was very involved in the church and had a wonderful reputation. After talking to him my mom came back and called me a liar. How could anyone that religious and important be a child molester? Then I was babysitting one night and the brother of a neighbor nearly raped me. Luckily this man's gay brother and his lover heard my screams and saved me. This man was out on bail for rape after just getting out of jail for rape. While I was in school the neighbor came over and begged my mother not to press charges. She felt sorry for him and didn't. When I got home I was furious and demanded what about me?! I was her child ...didn't she care about me? At least my father stuck up for me. He hunted him down in all the bars and when he found him beat him to a pulp. The man was convicted on the other rape charges and hung himself in jail. This move and this neighborhood holds no fond memories for me but I need the bigger house for my kids. What would you do? Mac knows about Frank Bianco, the one who molested me when I was 11, and I don't care if his name goes out over the web. Mac is so pissed he will probably go after him if Frank says anything to him. My ex befriended him after I told him...tells you about the hate level in that marraige doesn't it? The rapist's brother lives right across the street and i have to look at him daily. What do I do? I plan on moving in and not associating with any of them. WE are putting up a privacy fence and hibernating but I will have to see these peole when go out for my walks. Should I ignore them? Should I confront them? It happened so long ago but I still suffer from it. Why should they get away with it? Sorry I am venting but after all these years still hurts so badly. Do I have a sign on my head...:Molest her"? this is one of the hardest posts I have ever posted.
I will not even go into the drug, alcohol and child abuse that went on in that house. Pleasant memories in that house...not yet, but I'm planning on changing its karma big time. Sorry I dumped all this on you all. Believe it or not this is just scratching the surface of my life. So far it has not been a happy experience. that is until I found all you nuts:) All my love, Bernie
I will not even go into the drug, alcohol and child abuse that went on in that house. Pleasant memories in that house...not yet, but I'm planning on changing its karma big time. Sorry I dumped all this on you all. Believe it or not this is just scratching the surface of my life. So far it has not been a happy experience. that is until I found all you nuts:) All my love, Bernie
PS. Sorry this has been such a big downer but I needed to get it off my chest and into print. It may not help to relieve it but at least its out:)

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Hugs
RJ
Many hugs cutie!
PS: Oh yes, Guido is my dh's imaginary hit-man. He takes care of all bad men who hurt women. Isn't that a great idea?
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God never makes junk! Chick! your as important as the trees and the stars in life and don't you forget it Bernie!
Aloha oye!
Hula Girl
Aloha,
Lei
Love ya,
Red
to post. I hope that a different option can
open up for you, sooner the better.
But if not....
Now I only say the following because I know
you to believe strongly in God. Remember the
verse "I can do all things thru Christ."
That also means that it is possible for you
to live there in peace. You are a very, very
strong woman who can stand up to evil.
And you yourself just said you will change
the karma in the house, or whatever it is
called. You said it because you yourself
know you can do it.
I would not confront the neighbor. That
is still a "god-sized problem", and let God
handle them for you. All you need to to is
take your walks, if they say hello, you say
hello back. Don't let your mind sidetrack
you. You and I have seen the impossible
happen. And even if things do not happen
overnight, you can do it, Bern.
You really can.
Will pray for your strength.....
love,
Cindy
~*~ Aloha to all .... ~*~
&n
Thanks for being brave enough to share with us. I cannot wait to meet you in May.
Love
Mary
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