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Sat, 05-10-2003 - 1:56am
MIL was discharged from the care center today. We did take her home to her house so she can try it but we will be bringing her to our house really soon - maybe even tomorrow. They brought her a walker & wheelchair this afternoon, but she's so weak she can hardly lift herself off a chair or bed and when she does manage to walk herself from one room to the next she can hardly catch her breath. The HMO will send a home-care nurse daily for a week to provide some physical therapy & check on her, then would cut that down to every other day for a week then cut it down some more but from the looks of today, it won't get that far. I think she will figure it out for herself when she can't get herself out of bed during the night or in the morning that it just isn't going to work for her to be home by herself & it's time to come stay w/us & switch over to Medicare/hospice care. It's going to take a couple days to get her seen by a local doctor here to get the hospice care started here so we can request a hospital bed to help. She's not much more than 90 lbs. right now, but I've had a difficult time helping her pull herself back up the bed when she shifts down too far - but ya do what ya gotta do... I've got my teen boys here most the time - but they don't have a clue at this point what all this truly MEANS - so far it's just been words that seem to go in one ear & out the other. Gonna be an interesting weekend - she's stubborn & independent but knows what's going on & has agreed the next step will be to come here, we're just trying to let her make the decision when she knows it has to be made & not make her feel like we're making it for her - tho she shouldn't even be there by herself tonite a far as we're concerned.
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Sat, 05-10-2003 - 2:07am
Continued prayers for your dear mil! God Bless her, Gabby

       


 


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Sat, 05-10-2003 - 9:52am
Continued prayers for your mil and you and your family..Does not sound easy.

Hugs

RJ


 


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In reply to: auntjo
Sat, 05-10-2003 - 12:58pm
Good luck with MIL, Jo. What a tough situation you have there!

Hugs, Red

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Sat, 05-10-2003 - 4:25pm
JO I am so glad she is ok and that you and your dh will be taking care of her. It is always so hard for them to realize that they can no longer take care of themselves.

Hugs

Mary

                          &n
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Sun, 05-11-2003 - 12:38am
I don't envy you at all, Jo. Been there, and it's a tough place to be! I went through the same thing with my mom, she was in total denial until her leg was amputated, and then she finally realized neither of us could do it. It's so hard to watch the deterioration, and so sad. Sounds like you're handling the issues in a positive way!

Good luck, and hang in there!

Hugs, Pam

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Sun, 05-11-2003 - 8:19am
Jo...Prayers for you and your Family!!It's not an easy thing to do..Been there,done that as

someone said....have a peaceful,restful Mother's day or at least try to!!Hugs!!
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Sun, 05-11-2003 - 3:36pm
wishing you all the best , this is a difficult time...may you find the strngth and get the support you need!!..hugs, Dutch
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Sun, 05-11-2003 - 5:47pm
Jo, hang in there. Difficult to watch I know. Is mil's decision though even if we don't agree. Her life and she still needs to try and do as she wishes. Out of respect she deserves that I think. Glad to see you are doing just that at a most difficult time.

Nice you have the boys there also. Just possible they may learn a lot from this.

Take care,

Rain

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