Soggy morning here, have a dilemma....m

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Soggy morning here, have a dilemma....m
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Sun, 05-18-2003 - 11:16am
It rained ALL DAY yesterday, I am so SICK of wet!!! It's been a washout of a week, the only consolation was a rainbow Friday night. Some people around here saw a double one! And did you all see the lunar eclipse the other night? It was really neat!

Ok, I need a lot of adult, logical reasoning and advice here. Something unexpected has come up. Mike's cousin and his wife are moving permanently to upper Michigan in a few months. Personally, I think they're crazy, but hey, to each his or her own! Anyway, Jimmy called me the other night and offered to sell me their house! (Back in Nov,I had mentioned that I might be interested.) They have a nice 3 bedroom ranch in Beavercreek, where we lived for 22 years, and where the kids have always gone to school. Actually, I've only seen the "front" part of the house, the living, kitchen and family areas, only been in that house two or three times, but it's in a nice neighborhood and about 2 blocks from my work. The house was appraised this week, and he's offering it to me for $10,000 under the appraisal! Now, this is about $42,000 less than the new patio home we've been planning. It's a very appealing offer, and I have to admit, I'm seriously considering it. Part of me says dd has had such an awful year, and her heart is still in Beavercreek, and she deserves to graduate with all her lifelong friends. Also, the financial aspects are tempting, much lower house payment, wouldn't have to change jobs for money reasons, close to both our workplaces, less gas expense, it would be like going "back home". The downside is mainly the maintenance, and higher property taxes and water bills. BUT, with the lower payment, I could probably hire someone to help with the yard and such. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO!!!!! My gut says do it! This kind of thing doesn't drop in my lap for no reason. But I've followed my heart before and gotten burned. Will I regret it later, feel like I can't handle everything? Dd will be gone to college in 18 months, God willing, will ds step up and help out? (He says yes, but not five times a week!) Oh! There's a fenced yard for ddog, too. All my friends and acquaintances are back in Beavercreek, a fragile support system of sorts, it would be nice to be back in the midst of it.

Please help!! Tell me the good and the bad about this opportunity. Thanks!

Pam

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Sun, 05-18-2003 - 11:53am
Timing is everything, huh Pam? It does seem that this came at an auspicious time, tho. You have wanted a different place and an established home with lots of the amenities already there (such as fenced in yard and landscaping) sounds good. Being near work and friends for both you & Sara sounds great. The financial part is a no-brainer...excellent, in fact! ;o) So there's the pluses.

Now, do you feel the need to move on and make a life that is entirely yours? With Sara leaving soon and, quite frankly, it's nice that ds will help when he can but he has a life to live, also. Other than the money involved both places sound fine. Is maintenance part of the new place if you bought there? Or would that be your responsibility?

Wish decisions were easy to make. And we've all been there with making the wrong ones and hopefully learning from them! Trust in yourself Pam. You'll do what's best for you and the kids. Hugs.

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Sun, 05-18-2003 - 12:46pm
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Sun, 05-18-2003 - 2:55pm
Not an easy decision, but this is one you will have to live with for quite a while, so do what you REALLY want to do for you. The house in Beavercreek sounds great, but so doea a new home. Hugs, Gabby

       


 


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Sun, 05-18-2003 - 6:08pm
pam i think you already got some good advice from the previous ladies especially grams there.roof,wiring plumbing,furnace,hot water heater, that will all end up in your lap.and with older homes you just never know what will happen.find out how new or how old these things are. we just changed all the pipes in our basement,to copper,this would have been close to 5000.00 but dh and friends did it themselves,costing under 1000.now if you can get help like that,then its worth it,and kids sometimes you just cant bank on them,i know how that is.good luck pam you have a big decision here!!((hugs))mindy
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Sun, 05-18-2003 - 9:19pm
I say GO FOR IT, Pam. It sounds like one of those "in the right place at the right time" sort of deals. Good luck!

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Sun, 05-18-2003 - 9:39pm
Pam go where you know you will be the Happiest my friend. Don't take the easier path just because it sounds nice. This is a big decision girlfriend but I am betting you already know where you want to go.

Love

Mary

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Wed, 05-21-2003 - 5:19pm
Pam things happen for a reason and I think this house being offered to you is something you should seriously consider. You and the kids will be in an area you all love, you have friends there, its closer to work, etc. Try making a list of all the positive and negative things about each house and see which one comes out on top.

You might want to go see the entire house before making any kind of decision.

What ever you decided I am sure it will be the right one for you. Hugs, Bernie
Hugs, Bernie
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Wed, 05-21-2003 - 5:52pm
Gee Pam I have no idea what to say... All I can think of is go with your heart.

I know sometimes we do get burned when we follow our heart but probably somewhere

amongst that is a reason for it. I think you have weighed the pros and cons and the house does sound more like a pro than a con, but you have to remember it is you

who would be living there and you who has to be happy!

Wish I could be of more help there!

Hugs and good luck for what ever you decide. Lor