Soggy morning here, have a dilemma....m
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| Sun, 05-18-2003 - 11:16am |
Ok, I need a lot of adult, logical reasoning and advice here. Something unexpected has come up. Mike's cousin and his wife are moving permanently to upper Michigan in a few months. Personally, I think they're crazy, but hey, to each his or her own! Anyway, Jimmy called me the other night and offered to sell me their house! (Back in Nov,I had mentioned that I might be interested.) They have a nice 3 bedroom ranch in Beavercreek, where we lived for 22 years, and where the kids have always gone to school. Actually, I've only seen the "front" part of the house, the living, kitchen and family areas, only been in that house two or three times, but it's in a nice neighborhood and about 2 blocks from my work. The house was appraised this week, and he's offering it to me for $10,000 under the appraisal! Now, this is about $42,000 less than the new patio home we've been planning. It's a very appealing offer, and I have to admit, I'm seriously considering it. Part of me says dd has had such an awful year, and her heart is still in Beavercreek, and she deserves to graduate with all her lifelong friends. Also, the financial aspects are tempting, much lower house payment, wouldn't have to change jobs for money reasons, close to both our workplaces, less gas expense, it would be like going "back home". The downside is mainly the maintenance, and higher property taxes and water bills. BUT, with the lower payment, I could probably hire someone to help with the yard and such. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO!!!!! My gut says do it! This kind of thing doesn't drop in my lap for no reason. But I've followed my heart before and gotten burned. Will I regret it later, feel like I can't handle everything? Dd will be gone to college in 18 months, God willing, will ds step up and help out? (He says yes, but not five times a week!) Oh! There's a fenced yard for ddog, too. All my friends and acquaintances are back in Beavercreek, a fragile support system of sorts, it would be nice to be back in the midst of it.
Please help!! Tell me the good and the bad about this opportunity. Thanks!
Pam

Now, do you feel the need to move on and make a life that is entirely yours? With Sara leaving soon and, quite frankly, it's nice that ds will help when he can but he has a life to live, also. Other than the money involved both places sound fine. Is maintenance part of the new place if you bought there? Or would that be your responsibility?
Wish decisions were easy to make. And we've all been there with making the wrong ones and hopefully learning from them! Trust in yourself Pam. You'll do what's best for you and the kids. Hugs.
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Edited 8/8/2003 10:56:22 AM ET by grams2many
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You might want to go see the entire house before making any kind of decision.
What ever you decided I am sure it will be the right one for you. Hugs, Bernie
I know sometimes we do get burned when we follow our heart but probably somewhere
amongst that is a reason for it. I think you have weighed the pros and cons and the house does sound more like a pro than a con, but you have to remember it is you
who would be living there and you who has to be happy!
Wish I could be of more help there!
Hugs and good luck for what ever you decide. Lor