when it rains it pours

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when it rains it pours
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Tue, 06-10-2003 - 10:22pm
hello ladies...

i am trying to post more often here,,, last time i posted on

topic of the week section..duhhh....i am out of commission in my head i

think........i am having a BADDDDDDDDDDDDDD week.....first i started my

monthly ten days early.....first thing monday my housekeeper quit on me...

leaving me with tons of work to do for the week...ALONE... then my maint.

super walked out this morning.. he was a good one too..and a big loss...

then my sister-in-law..(from my first marriage) passed away of cancer..she

was only in her early 50's...and had 3 kids... so distraught and crying

off and on today..work and at home...helpless feeling i think...i am on

xanex to help...but somethings we just have to cope with and deal with..

but gezzzzzzz give me a break soon!!!! then fathers day is coming up

as we all know..this will be my first fathers day without my dad...as he passed

last september...altimizers...etc. he was a great loss for me, as i was sooo

very close with him (being the only child) i have so many memories of him..

it will be very hard for me this sunday as i still have a hard time accepting

his loss....i will be going to the cemetary to place a balloon and flowers

and to talk to him to see how he is and to inform him of all the news he

has missed....how hard it is to accept a loss...when i read the news..which

i try to stay away from< it breaks my heart to see how many people take

life for granted...and or taking ones life....we were all put here on this

earth to enjoy life...and keep moments close to our hearts.. i only wish we

could all live forever.....in my dads passing i still try to keep in mind...

that he looks down on us all with a smile...sorry for being so down and out..

i hope this cloud passes overhead soon...as i tear up again...my emotions

over-take me at times..and things just are horrible this week.....

thanks for listening ladies...

libby.. (mary)

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Tue, 06-10-2003 - 10:29pm
Libby, My heart goes out to you on the loss of your father. This has got to be a hard time...Sounds like you are getting bad news from everywhere....Hope things improve!

Glad you came to share...It helps to let it out!

Hugs

RJ


 


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Registered: 03-25-2003
Tue, 06-10-2003 - 11:38pm
Aw, Libby, so much loss at one time, it's so very hard to handle. Trust me, I know. I went through the same thing in '97-'98, finally fell apart in the spring of '98 and went into counseling.

This Sunday will be a tough one for you. Try to find something happy to do, maybe something you enjoyed doing with your dad. My dh died Aug. 29 last year, so this Father's Day we're doing a big cookout with corn on the cob and deviled eggs, two of his favorites. Dd wants to spend the day in bed, but I won't let her. She's 17 and was Daddy's girl! Ds is 22 and will inheirit the cooking duties! We'll probably shed a few tears, but we'll be ok. Any time you need to vent, email me. pblatz@woh.rr.com.

Take care, and hope the skies lighten up over you real soon!

Hugs, Pam

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Tue, 06-10-2003 - 11:51pm
(((Libby)))...I'm so sorry you have had so much going on these past few months. I only hope that things get better very soon for you. Hang in there sweetie and remember we are here when you need to vent/talk. Hugs, gabby

       


 


                              &n

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 06-11-2003 - 1:16am
Boy, Mary, you really got dumped on this week. There's not much anyone can say to make it any better. I jsut hope things begin to staighten out soon...especially with things like the housekeeper and maintenance person. As far as your dad, well, that's just going to hurt for a while and I don't suppose you ever get over having those times when you just wish you'd had a little longer. But as time goes on, some of that is going to be replaced by the really good memories you have of him and in that you are lucky.

You are right, we all tend to take life so for granted until something kicks us in the teeth to remind us just how fragile it can be.

I guess the only other thing I want to say is that when you go to your father's grave to talk with him, take some time to let yourself stop and listen to what he has to say back to you.

Kat

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Wed, 06-11-2003 - 9:11pm
Libby,

Wow! Rough week but hang in there! Think of the good things your dad liked--maybe that will help. We talk alot about the deceased family members & memories on holidays especially--sure helps my family cope. Good luck on finding replacement employees.

Lots of hugs and prayers, Kathie
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Wed, 06-11-2003 - 9:15pm
Pam,

Just wanted you to know that this weekend you will be in my thoughts and prayers as well. I know this is another one of those tough holidays for your family. Please don't forget we're here for you as well. Keep strong---you've made such strides this year!

Hugs,

Kathie

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 06-12-2003 - 12:07am
Libby, I'm sending healing thoughts your way, and keeping you in my prayers.

Jan


Edited 6/12/2003 12:11:08 AM ET by jan.magee

Jan


 

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 06-12-2003 - 7:37am
Libby, I'm sorry you're having such a tough time right now. Wishing you luck on finding people to replace your housekeeper and maint person. And I'm so sorry for your losses. It's hard to loose someone, but you must try to remember the good times you enjoyed with them. You are very fortunate to have had such a wonderful relationship with your dad. This will be a hard week for you, but it sounds like you have a plan for remembering your dad. You will be in my thoughts. Take care, Charlie