does everything fall apart at 45?

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does everything fall apart at 45?
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Thu, 06-12-2003 - 8:49am
Hi everyone - new here- introduced myself below. Has anyone felt like everything falls apart at 45?? This is really bothering me - I have had 2 mammograms and now have to go for an untrasound...have to have 2 moles removed ....man....trying to be positive but feeling really old.....

Paula

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 06-13-2003 - 1:49pm
Same thing happened to me but it gets better. What I found was that as soon as I realized my body wasn't going to stay 20 yr old on its own, I started doing all the things that I should have been doing all along...eating better, getting more exercise, taking my vitamins, that sort of thing. Can't say that the poor body is 20 years old again, but I do think I feel better than I did in my later 40's. Good luck.

Kat

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Sat, 06-14-2003 - 8:20am
Hi again Paula,

Yes, I think whoever said life begins a 40, must have been a masochist. As you have noticed, we talk about just about everything here and I'm convinced that menopause has alot to do with it. If I may ask, are you going through menopause yet, or have gone through it?

I just realized the other day, while in the drug store, that I spend lots of time in the OTC drug isle, looking at things for heartburn, constipation, stool softeners, hemmoroids, and mini pads for urine leakage. What is this all about? Then there is the "Silver" vitamins. Potash for this, soy for that. And I never thought I'd hear myself say I wish I was 40 again, or even 45..lol.

Sounds like you are having a really tough time with age, and gee, I'm not helping am I? But I've got 6 years on ya gal.

I have discovered that I do not take as good of care of myself as I used to either. Speaking of mammograms, I a year over. My doc wants me to have a colonoscopy, and with my panic disorder, I have already canceled one appt. And I think it is important. I need my colestrol checked as I live on milk, yogurt, and lots of dairy stuff. But I'm getting my calcium.

Get this. I did have a bone density test a while back, and my bones are in great shape. Probably all the calcium I eat.

Oh, I could go on and on and bore you to death, and I want to be freinds, my new cyber-sis.

So, you take care, try not to worry too much and I look forward to your post. Hugs, Terry

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Sat, 06-14-2003 - 8:22am
Oh Paula, forgot to mention that I'm even eating bran and fiber now. LOL. Just laugh. Humor is a wonderful way to deal w/this. Let's try it.

More hugs, Terry

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Sat, 06-14-2003 - 2:41pm
Hi Paula,

Little tardy signing is but here I am. Live in Wisconsin and in my fifties. As for falling apart, not here....everything is there...just in different places then twenty years ago. LOL

Hang in there Paula and lets all grow old together.

Rain

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Sat, 06-14-2003 - 4:23pm
Hi Paula and welcome. I'm sort of regular here. Used to be here everyday but life got really hectic lately. I'm Becky from Texas. I understand where you are-I'm 45. I went through what you are several years ago. It's perimenopause. I felt like someone had put me in a different body. Not that my body had changed all that much but that I felt differently about it, kind of like when I went through puberty. Just not really myself. I found that not being too hard on myself and learning to live with what I couldn't change and changing what was changeable worked very well. Exercise and a balanced diet are very very helpful (I'm big on that as I'm and exercise instructor-LOL) and regular visits with a Dr are good. I get to have a mammogram and an ultra sound every year-down from the every 6 month stint. Try not to worry until you have to. Even a breast biopsy is typical when they can't "see" what the mass is. Hope you'll stick around.. this board has got me through some pretty awful times. ((HUGS)) Becky

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