I need some serious advice........

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Registered: 03-20-2003
I need some serious advice........
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Mon, 06-16-2003 - 12:17pm
As you all know, graduation was this weekend, so my mother is here from California for that. Each time I see her I wonder how much longer she will be able to live alone. We truly do not believe she should be living alone anymore. Not only is she very, very slow in her movement (cane most of the time), but she seems to be slipping slightly in her thoughts. I know much of that is the hearing aide, but still it scares us. We also have learned she has an incontinence problem, although she says it takes too long to get to our bathroom from the kitchen. She truly can not take care of herself properly. If we try to talk to her she will fight us and say we are trying to put her in a home. She will get defensive and angry. She is a VERY independent lady and that is the reason we have let it go this far. However, she is NOT a young 80, she is 80 and it shows. Her house is a mess, she has no way of cleaning it herself, which is another reason for a smaller place. All we want is for her to move into a smaller place, a condo or apartment where there are other seniors. Living in a house alone is just not safe anymore. Believe me, we have tried and tried to talk to her and she only gets upset. We are at our wits end with this. I'm sure some of you have gone through this, so please help. Thank you, Gabby

       


 


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Registered: 03-25-2003
Tue, 06-17-2003 - 10:40am
E-mailing you now. Love you bunches. XOXOXO

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 06-17-2003 - 11:27am
No way will we be like that I am sure of that because I see how tough it is on us that I would not want to do that to my kids!

Tough going isn't it!

Hugs, Lor

     

 

          

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