Whits End here...

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Whits End here...
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Fri, 06-20-2003 - 8:44pm
The little "darlings" have overstepped my boundaries. Had a nest on the porch with eggs in it. I purposely sat and explained to them about leaving it alone when they asked about it. Today, the oldest girl (12) removed the eggs from the nest. I wondered why the mother bird was acting strangely. The 11 year old came and told her mother about it.

If she did it out of spite to show me she can do what she pleases, she has gone to far. I will not have the child in my house. Children live what they learn I know and their mother is a spiteful, angry women. If there is a chance she thought she was helping, I'd like to know that.

Just angry and upset. Harming anything for no reason at all is totally unacceptable to me.

Right now, I can't move. Throwing them out is not exactly an option either. Any suggestions at all?

I spent the majority of my life working with children. Neglected, juvenile delinquents and disadvantaged etc., yet never before have I encountered children like these.

Rain

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Fri, 06-20-2003 - 10:41pm
I wish I had an answer for you, but I don't yet. (((((Hugs)))) cin.
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Sat, 06-21-2003 - 12:00am
I would be angry and upset also. Are the eggs broken, were they put back?

       


 


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Sat, 06-21-2003 - 12:10am
Ooooooh!! I HATE kids like that!!! They just look you in the eye and DARE you to do something! Are you babysitting these kids? I'm sorry but I'm not familiar with your situation, Rain. I know I would have lost my temper and yelled at them, and maybe that's not all bad. They need to know adults will not put up with behavior like that! Maybe since they took what was precious to the mother bird, they should lose something that's important to them, like a CD or video game, along with the reason, "you get what you give" which in this case was sadness.

Good luck on this one!

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Sat, 06-21-2003 - 1:35am
Rain, I was wondering the same thing that Gabby asked about. Is there any chance that she took the eggs but did not hurt them and could put them back? My inclination would be to round up the family and calmly but firmly say exactly what you said to us...that this behavior is not such that you are willing to tolerate in your home and that they need to find another place to live. You don't have to throw them out or even necessarily give them a deadline. I think you do need to give them something to thing about and you really do need to reclaim your home.

Kat

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Sat, 06-21-2003 - 8:56am
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Sat, 06-21-2003 - 10:22am
rain it sure sounds like their testing their limits with you.how do you teach compassion and love,these are two things children have to learn from birth on,and that is usually with the people they bond with first.if there is nothing there to teach,then how can they learn.do you learn by example when their older,yes i do believe that compassion and love is something that can always grow from example.and rite now it sounds like you are the one,guide yourself with patience and show them the good that comes from caring about everything around you.good luck to you rain!!((hugs))mindy
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Sat, 06-21-2003 - 2:56pm
Rain I can feel your frustration and can sympathize with you! I think I would be telling them that sorry that this is really not working that you have set rules and that the kids are determined to do just the opposite of them. I honestly think that I would not have been able to handle kids like that for half as long as you have. I would think the mother would have had sense to talk to them about how they have to listen and obey, but since she hasn't think I too would tell them that they will have to find else where to live.

Now I know that may not be the answer but it is how I think I would react.

what ever you do chose to do let me tell you I wish you all the luck in the world, sounds like you may need it!

hang in there! Hugs, Lor

     

 

          

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Sat, 06-21-2003 - 3:53pm
Well Hello Stanger:

This will be the 3rd time I have posted I keep getting booted, so if you got other 2 by accident I apologize.

I have an idea but.............You know I am in the same pickle barrel you are rain.

Jim still lives here with his girlfriend.

I have one simple rule......IT'S MY WAY OR THE HIGHWAY.

I know that sounds harsh but........Since mom and her reside with you it is up to you to discipline for this one.

Maybe some community service work while she listens to the mama bird crying would be in order. Raking, weeding, etc etc

I asked my son's girlfriend what she would do to her dtr if she did this to me and she said I don't know mom, I only know if I ever did that to my grandma she would skin me alive quote unquote.

Take Care Buddy

You are in my prayers.

Lyn