Getting older ie....WRINKLES

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Getting older ie....WRINKLES
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Tue, 08-05-2003 - 5:07pm
Try to make this short.

Developed an Eating Disorder when I was around 21, 22 and suffered with it for 20 yrs. Recovered now for 6 yrs. I am in a very very good place now.

I love my life, my marriage, everything, except getting older. I totally lost my youth to my illness and now that I am enjoying life and want to have fun, now come the wrinkles.

My marriage is better than it ever was, wouldn't change a thing about it, I just want my youth back, which I KNOW I can't!!! And it pisses me off. I try hard not to think about it, but there are times like now that it gets to me.

I am in the best shape physically (cause I work out 2-3 times a week) and mentally than I ever was, except for the WRINKLES.

I am having a real hard time with this, but I can not afford any of those costly procedures.

I am trying my best to go out and enjoy myself by getting involved in lots of things, but that doesn't stop time from showing on my face.

Just venting, and maybe hoping somebody can give me some wise advice on how to deal with this.

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Registered: 04-22-2003
Tue, 08-05-2003 - 6:15pm
Ever think about botox...or maybe having facials on regular basis??? Learning to live with them can be tough, but I'm sure if you talk to a dermatologist, maybe he can give you some advise...worth a try...

Barb

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Tue, 08-05-2003 - 7:52pm
HI and welcome to our board. If you have lots of wrinkles and you just cannot stand the way you look then maybe you should consider some plastic surgery. If you cannot afford that there are lots of cremes out there to help make those wrinkles less noticable so you can always try those. Truthly I think at our ages here on this board we earned our wrinkles and you know we are not kids anymore thank heavens. You had a very difficult time to over come your eating disorder. So just smile, go lightly on the make up because I definately believe that at this age less is more.

Hugs

Mary

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Tue, 08-05-2003 - 10:37pm
This is going to make my complaining sound even worse, but here goes...........

I have only a few tiny lines under my eyes, and those vertical expressions lines from my nose to my mouth and that's it.

On top of that when most people learn how old I am, they get this amazed look on their faces and tell me they would of never thought I was that old. Some can't believe I have a 21 yr old daughter and otheres would of guessed I was in my mid to late 30's, when I am 48, 49 this October.

So what am I complaining about???????????? I just don't like it. Period..........

Can't stop the age thing from happening, I know.............. BUT...............

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Wed, 08-06-2003 - 1:24am
You know what? I doubt very much that anyone else sees only the wrinkles when they look at you. You have a good marriage and a good life, and this is who you are. If you can't afford a face life, try to learn to love the face you have! Your life shows up in your face! Think of them as "life lines"!

At least see a dermatologist, maybe there is something topical you can use to firm things up a bit, sort of a chemical facelift. But remember, there are more wonderful things in this life than there are sad things, so go grab the gusto and put your "best face" forward! Good luck! Now go hug your hubby!!!

Hugs, Pam

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Wed, 08-06-2003 - 1:58am
I had to laugh when I read what you said about people not thinking you are your age. I get this at work all the time. Worked a couple of functions one I can remember when a young guy tried to well lets say "pick me up". When I asked him his age and he said 27 I just howled as my son is 32 years old. I told him I was 53 and he was blown away!!!!. My point is I SEE EVERY LINE AND WRINKLE..but when I say that to others they tell me I'm nuts and look great for my age. We sometimes are too tough on ourselves and see every flaw like it's a major thing. Most people think I'm in my mid to early 40's so ...hey..I can deal with that. Be kind to yourself and try to think how others see you too...




Hugs, Barb

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Wed, 08-06-2003 - 2:43pm
Barb......you made me laugh...........

You are right, obsolutely............

I've been getting alot of attention of other men,(whick I didn't get before) have to admit it boosts the ego. But like I said my guy is the best.

Doesn't it feel great when those sort of things happen???

I guess, like you and others including my hubby, says I am totally nuts for worrying so much especially since I look so much younger than I really am.

I've even been mistaken for my husband's daughter. That didn't set too well with him...

But sure did alot for me...............

Thanks for the support.................Julie

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Wed, 08-06-2003 - 11:01pm
Hey glad I made you laugh...but it is true isn't it. Society has made being a woman so hard on us. They tell us we have to be thinner...prettier...smarter...goes on and on. We end up looking at ourselves and picking apart everything. I have been married for 31 years to a wonderful guy and he still calls me "my young girl"..and tells me I'm beautiful and how much he loves me...... EVERY DAY..... What else is there in life?????????????

Sometimes I get a little jealous or envious of ladies who look better than me but then I stop and think...."are they happier than I am"!! Plus just getting over having cancer in my vaginal walls and doing the whole radiation thing....I'm just glad to be alive and happy and having a wonderful hubby, kids and grandkids. I used to be sooooo hard on myself, but the cancer changed all that for me. Now I relish every day and think about all the good things..and try to ignore the bad. Keep in touch....I think your pretty funny too..and probably gorgeous!!

HUgs, Barb

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Thu, 08-07-2003 - 10:09am
Barb...........

So sorry to hear about your cancer. I know what's it like, not first hand, but my father died from it in 2000. We took care of him, when all the experts told him there was nothing they could do, found it too late.

Couldn't stand the idea of him being in a nursing home so he came home with us until he passed away 8 months later.

But so gald you are doing well, see I see things alittle different than you. My illness could of been life threathening too, and now that I am back healthy again...well....won't go there..............

My hubby and me will celebrate our 30th in Sept. In the real world I couldn't ask for more (except maybe more money?????LOL). Can't believe it's been that long. Time sure flies by.............

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Sat, 08-09-2003 - 3:27am
Know what you mean...you are lucky...and sounds like healthy. My husband and I are celebrating our 31st. this year.....and retiring completely the end of 2003. We are fortunate that money has never been an issue in all our years, we're both very good at that.....keep in touch...


Barb.

Quote" We woman are like fine wine....we just get better with age!"..


Something to think about?????