Am I being way to sensitive ladies?

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Am I being way to sensitive ladies?
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Wed, 08-06-2003 - 1:41pm
Good afternoon. Missed the chat today, but this discussion is better for the board anyway.

For those of you who know that dh and I are not living together at this time, and know about other aspects of the situation, this is another hurdle I was was just waiting for.

A little background. We used to go camping at least 3 times a year over the weekends, and before summer was over, we would spend a week camping w/hardly anyone around after school started back up.

We have a beautiful trailer, 29ft, all the comforts of home; tv, microwave, refrig, queen size bed, bath/shower/toilet, etc. I really looked forward to these trips away from everything. Really roughing it huh..lol. Boy, that's camping.

Dh called me yesterday to let me know that he would be picking up the trailer to wash it, and he is taking his dd, her dh, their baby and his ds camping this coming weekend. He wanted to let me know so when I looked outside and didn't see it I wouldn't freak out.

With everything else going on, I wasn't prepared for this at all, and this hurts me. I guess thinking about all the good times we had, and knowing that I'm being left behind. I feel like this is such a juvenile way for me to be thinking in view of the situation.

Since he' been gone, I keep an eye on it, open the windows to air it out when it's hot, and sometimes just lay on the bed, close my eyes and wish when I opened my eyes, the both of us would be at our favorite campground, with the birds singing and the little animals running around. I also keep things in the trailer if I run out of something in the house. He will be bringing it back, b/c there is no where else to keep it that doesn't cost an arm and a leg, and I would prefer watching it myself.

Anyhow, I just wanted to share this with my cyber sis'to see if my depression would be a normal reaction to this? Thank you for reading. Hugs to all.

Really down and out.

Also, don't want to forget to send prayers out to all my cyber sisters and their families who are going through some really tough times. More hugs.

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Wed, 08-06-2003 - 1:47pm
Terry, I don't blame you a bit for feeling that way, and it seems perfectly normal to me! You are feeling very wistful about all the good times you had together camping and also are dealing with the notion that maybe those times are gone. Right? Well, who wouldn't be depressed?

I sure don't have much advice for you. I'd feel bad, too. That is just the type of thing that happens when relationships change and/or come to an end. It's a grieving process.

All I can do is offer many hugs from here. So sorry, Terry.

Hugs,

Red

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Wed, 08-06-2003 - 2:26pm
No, I don't think you're being too sensitive. I'm sure that I'd feel the same way. I think if I were you though that I'd go out and take out some of the things that you have in there. For example, anything personel and also, anything else that you've put in there that you might need or want to use in the house that might be used or taken out while he has it.

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Wed, 08-06-2003 - 3:09pm
HI Terry

I don't think you are being too sensitive at all. As Red said I think it is normal to feel like you are going to be left out and yearn for the days when things were much happier. I also agree with Kaci take all of your things out of it so you will not loose anything while your dh has it.

Take care

Hugs

Mary

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Wed, 08-06-2003 - 5:06pm
Terry, I do not think you are being too sensitive. You made memories in that trailer so it is understandable you would feel depressed. Maybe try to do something extra special this weekend - just for you!

Hugs

LM
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Wed, 08-06-2003 - 5:38pm
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Edited 8/7/2003 2:31:53 PM ET by grams2many

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Wed, 08-06-2003 - 6:59pm
Terry, I don't blame you. It's the kind of stuff

that happens when relationships change, tho.

I hope you don't dwell on this too much more.

(((((((Hugs))))))))

cindy


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Wed, 08-06-2003 - 9:40pm
Terry I dont think that is beign overly sensitive... when you see them all going away to have a good time that you traditionally would go along with then I can see why you would be hurt. I think this is one thread of the good times and you would love to have back, without any of the badness. Yep think it is normal to feel so saddened by this!

Hugs, hang in there! Lor

     

 

          

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Thu, 08-07-2003 - 8:07am
Terry, I agree with what the others have said here. It's only natural to feel sad and a little pain at being left behind, especially since you enjoyed those camping trips so much. I really think you should try to get out and do somthing fun this weekend. Even if it's just to walk around a mall or go to a movie. Take care of yourself. (((hugs))) Charlie
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Thu, 08-07-2003 - 1:06pm
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