SAME SEX MARRIAGE....HOW DO YOU FEEL?
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SAME SEX MARRIAGE....HOW DO YOU FEEL?
| Fri, 08-08-2003 - 12:20am |
Well the place that I work does mostly weddings, worked hundreds of them. Today we got into the "big" discussion about same sex marriages. Now that it is legal in Canada they feel it's just a matter of time before we have some at our place of business. Being that I work in a Military ( MOSTLY MALE) environment every one is up in arms about this.
Being one of the senior people there I put in my two cents worth which was not received very well.
My philosophy is why can't a man love another man, or visa versa. If it brings you happiness and is not hurting anyone does it really matter if you love someone who is the same sex???. I just don't understand why people are so against it, I mean their not causing anyone else any harm, and just want to love...who they love.
So I could go on, but you see where I stand, I was just wondering how you other ladies felt about this, I would be interested in hearing any one else's opinion.
Being one of the senior people there I put in my two cents worth which was not received very well.
My philosophy is why can't a man love another man, or visa versa. If it brings you happiness and is not hurting anyone does it really matter if you love someone who is the same sex???. I just don't understand why people are so against it, I mean their not causing anyone else any harm, and just want to love...who they love.
So I could go on, but you see where I stand, I was just wondering how you other ladies felt about this, I would be interested in hearing any one else's opinion.
Barb

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Barb
I for one, am opposed. I find that I am very much in the minority for having that opinion, but I am opposed.
I see homosexuality as a birth defect. I know I am very much in the minority for this viewpoint as well. Being homosexual does not make a person inherently good or bad, but thats not the way the human race was designed. I view it like conjoined twins or spina bifida. It happens, but the truth is that's not the way people were designed.
If I were particularly religious I would point to that passage about it being an abomination before God. From a biologic viewpoint, I wold say that the ultimate goal of any species is to procreate. Some protozoas do that asexually and other species accomplish that sexually. Infertility and birth control notwithstanding, male + female have the broad ability to perpetuate the species, male + male or female + female can not. True, adoption, artifical insemination and other such measures may afford a gay couple the opportunity to have children, but in the end, that is male + female, the way people are designed.
Homosexual marriage does societal harm in the way that prostitution and other such "victimless crimes" does. Marriage, like it or lump it is a business and societal arrangement as well as a love relationship. And don't forget the love thing is fairly new fangled. Marriages were treaties between nations, kingdoms and families. Granted many of the laws for the passing down of land, money, titles, lineages and other inheritances have changed since days of old, but vestiges of these things remain in divorce court, probate court and parternity tests.
I do not feel my taxes, employment insurance rate increases and various other societal expenditures should condone of finance such unions.
I am disappointed that others here, even with the semi-anonymity the internet affords, are afraid to voice their opinion or want to sweep the question under the carpet and not address it. We are the generation that lived through civil and women's rights, working and stay at home moms,the dramatic increases in divorce, living together, swinging, and other social "hot potatoes". I am curious to know how people are explaining it to their children, in their houses of worship, how it may affect their famiy structure and belief systems. No, I don't expect the issue to be resolved here, but I so miss real conversations, with real opinions that are not the politically correct superfical make nice banter that passes for conversation these days. I can get that at a cocktail party.
DeAnn
BklynPeach42@yahoo.com
I’m sorry you are disappointed in the reactions (or lack of in some cases) that you see on this board. It’s great you have a best friend you can debate this point in question with. Ivillage also has boards that would welcome strong feelings, such as: “Debate The Differences,” “Lesbian Issues” on the Sex & Sexuality boards, “Relationships”, and who knows….possibly the Entertainment boards!
What we teach or have taught our children on the issues you mentioned are, I’m sure, quite different for most of us than what we are going to press on our members here. We can and do engage in interesting dialog on this board without stepping on a lot of hard core belief systems to do it. So, if this isn’t the place for you…there are always cocktail parties!
Have a good day!
Kay
P.S. Oh, I want to mention that the internet semi-anonymity you mentioned hasn’t stopped a great deal of us from meeting face to face. However, I do stop short of giving out my e-mail addy here. Otherwise, I’m pretty widely known by members of the Well-Being board.
Will not say where I stand on this issue because I have seen this board hurt before by subjects that have no place here. I do however believe that being gay is not a choice but just the way it is. My best friend has twin daughters and one is gay and the other is not. They are identical in every other way so go figure. Both are wonderful young women and a pleasure to know. I will say this...as many know I have a son that I have not seen in over three years. He is 35 y/o and is an alcohol/drug addict and has been since his early teens. There has been nothing but destruction and heartache for every life he has touched. If he were a well-adjusted, gay, happy man, which do you think I would rather he be?
Contrary to popular belief I do not believe we were put here only to procreate. All you have to do is watch the news every night and hear about child abuse, child neglect, and children dying at the hands of their parents. Also if that is the purpose why do so many couples choose not to have children? My sil is childless by choice and I applaud her because she knew that motherhood was not for her.
Have never been to a cocktail party and have no idea what that superficial life is like but I do know the women here are the absolute best. Am sure some are exposed to that way of life but they are honest and down to earth. No matter what happens here when things get tough everybody rallies round. Have met many here and am soon going to meet some more. We are not just names on a board.
Ok on to more important things. Just read about RJ and want to post to her. Now that is what is important to this group.
BTW I respect both sides of the fence on this issue...ok?
Hugs, Ruthie
Now I agree - lets move on to something a little lighter. I want all of us to be happy.
That's ok, right?
LM
&n
Many hugs,
Sooze
discussion, but it took off on its own. love, Cindy
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