A friend of ours got bad news

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A friend of ours got bad news
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Tue, 08-12-2003 - 2:58pm
over the phone this morning. I can't believe that they told her that she has cancer over the phone. I hope that it was a mistake and they really told her that they want to do more tests to rule out cancer. We are hoping that it was just that she heard the C word and blanked. She is one of my dh's cyber-coworkers and has twin high school boys and a younger daughter. She is one of the sweetest people I've ever met. We won't know more til at least tomorrow. This bad stuff happening to good people is really the pits!!-BB
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Tue, 08-12-2003 - 3:27pm
Bobbie, I hope that its that more tests are needed

to rule out cancer.

And if she does turn out to have cancer, it is

not a death sentence. yet. With medical advances

these days, there are more survivors than not.

I hope she is a woman of faith because she will

need it to fill the worry gap.

I will say a prayer for her.

Please keep us updated as well.

love,

cindy


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Tue, 08-12-2003 - 3:30pm
BB that is terrible, I can not believe they would even tell her over the phone she has cancer not even that they would like to do further tests to rule cancer out. When people hear that word they stop listening and fear takes over. I sure hope that she finds that this was just a precautionary thing and not in fact Cancer.

Here our dr will not tell you anything over the phone if you have had tests you either get a letter or a call saying that the dr would like you to come in to discuss your tests... and that is not just if there is bad news that they have to tell you.

WIll send prayers her way.. she will need them for the next little while!

Hugs and prayers to your friend, Lor

     

 

          

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Tue, 08-12-2003 - 4:38pm
BB sure hope your friend heard wrong, sending prayers and angels her way.

Love ya

Mary

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Tue, 08-12-2003 - 7:19pm
Oh, Bobbie, I'm so sorry about your friend. I agree, that seems heartless to tell her on the phone! How callous! Maybe she did misunderstand; sure hope so. Give her my best. Hang in there, kid!

Love and hugs, Pam

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Tue, 08-12-2003 - 7:41pm
i agree bb i hope she heard it wrong,i cannot believe a doctor would be so callous,but they are out there.(hugs))min
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Tue, 08-12-2003 - 10:58pm
Good grief, BB, I can't believe they'd tell her that over the phone, either! I hope it was just that she heard wrong, and will keep her in my prayers.

I did hear one doctor say that she prefers to tell her patients over the phone, while they're at home, since it's a comfortable and safe place. That way, they can absorb the fact, then concentrate when she has them in the office to go over treatment plans, since when you hear the "C" word, you tend to blank out. I can see the point, but sure don't agree with it.

Jan

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Wed, 08-13-2003 - 2:12am
Let's hope she heard wrong, please let us know. I will be saying prayers for her. Hugs, Gabby

       


 


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Wed, 08-13-2003 - 3:31am
That is definitely a message that you don't give over the phone. But I can see that they might have called and told her that she has this or that that needs to be checked on more because it could lead into cancer. I hope her tests come out negative. Good luck.

Kat

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Wed, 08-13-2003 - 4:29am
BB,

I vote for the blank and it's tests to rule out cancer also. BB have to tell you though...even if it is they can do something these days. That nasty word came out of my doctors mouth in my early 30's. He took care of it and it hasn't reared it's ungly head since.

Still will be hoping she heard wrong though. Please keep us posted.

Hugs,

Rain

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Wed, 08-13-2003 - 7:59am
Lots of good vibes and prayers going her way, BB. Love and BIG HUGS. ..Free