Clarification requested...

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Clarification requested...
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Sat, 08-16-2003 - 4:17pm
I need some clarification on the "personality" of this board.

Last week, just before having no internet access while on vacation, I posted my response to a question regarding on Same Sex Marriage. No, I am not writing to continue that conversation. But since it appears I have been blocked from that particular posting, I felt it might be in both the Boards and my best interest to ask what this board is about.

It seems that I have ruffled a few feathers and left a few folks feeling insulted. That was not at all my intent. And for that I do apologize. I will admit that I was hoping that finding a board with girls my age would lead to some indepth discussions, without the flaming that the debate boards often digenerate to, nor the often superficial "politically correct responses only please" postings of some boards.

So I am left to ask: are indepth conversations/questions permitted here? Must responses be politically correct or not at all? Are only light topics considered appropriate here?

These are not rhetorical questions. I would really like to know. I can do light conversations if that is the premise of this board. I just need to know the rules of engagement.

DeAnn

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Sat, 08-16-2003 - 5:10pm
HI DeAnn

I didn't know anyone was blocked from posting to that post. I have no idea what is going on there.

We usually do discuss almost any subject here but we do stay away from those that would be controversial. We leave topics like that to the debate boards.

This board is about an age group of woman 43-59 although we really don't insist you fit the age group as we are fond of saying in our chats we don't really take ids. Discussing what makes us happy, sad and just our general well being. We have a great group of women here but we do try to stay away from topics that would cause a debate. We talk about our lives,vent our anger or sorrows. Menopause,perimenopause.

I do hope you will stay and get to know this great group of ladies.

Hugs

Mary

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Sat, 08-16-2003 - 9:32pm
Hi DeAnn, sometimes TPTB will close a discussion. It seems that's what happeded to that thread - the "Reply to This Post" button was removed, thus cutting off the disruptive discussion.

We have a great group here, offering a place to vent, brag, get support and have fun while making friends. I hope you'll stick around and get to know us.

Jan

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Sat, 08-16-2003 - 10:15pm
DeAnn,

If you ruffled some feathers, guess I missed it. Or mine don't ruffle easily. LOL Like your thought of asking what this board is all about. Can't wait to read the responses myself.

A post or two of mine has not been recieved well either. To me an opinion is just that if not stated in a derogatory or insulting way.

Best wishes,

Rain

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Sun, 08-17-2003 - 1:14am
Hi, DeAnn! If I may offer my humble opinion, I think what this board is about are things that are relavent to one of our members. If a topic has come up in our lives, we ask for advice, opinions, comfort, support, etc. We don't usually just throw some topic out to see what it stirs up. I didn't read any of those posts that you're referring to because it really didn't interest me, so I can't speak directly to the issue, but the person who started that discussion is fairly new to this board and seems to like asking questions.

I think most of us have enough "controversy" in our lives, we don't need any more! At least that's where I'm coming from. LOL! Once in a while we hit a "hot button", and posts fly back and forth, but for the most part, we stick to kvetching and laughing, sharing joys and troubles, and boosting each other's morale.

Glad you asked! And I hope you stick around. There are a lot of wonderful women here!!

Hugs, Pam

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Sun, 08-17-2003 - 8:00am
i totally agree with the other gals deann.we can still have good and intelletual conversations without controversy.so stick around i think you will find us all stimulating.((hugs))mindy
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Sun, 08-17-2003 - 1:53pm
Hi DeAnn, it's great that you found our board

and we really, really hope you stick around.

Many of us, including myself have been here

for 3 and 4 years. And we've met in person

more than once!

I really think you will enjoy this board.

aloha,

Cindy


~*~ Aloha to all .... ~*~

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Mon, 08-18-2003 - 2:13pm
Thank you do much for your response. When I went back to the "forbidden post" the reply button was missing so I guess somewhere along the line, someone requested that be done. Oh, well.

Ater reading everyone responses to my questions here, I guess most of what I would find interesting to discuss would be deemed "controversial". Shoot, my current life would probably be considered controversial (May-December (I'm 10years older, Interracial, Childfree-by-Choice) by someone on the Board. Please let me know if mentioning these topics are outside the comfort-level of this Board. I addressed the Same Sex Marriage question as I have a gay step brother and so that is a "part of my life" even though it is controversial.

I belong to several other iV Boards and I enjoy them immensly, but most of the women are 20-30 somethings,(yes, I do like younger people) but I miss the company of women who have come into their selfhood. I like exchanging ideas and thoughts as well as feelings and think women are so much more interesting than the sum of their hormones be it PMS, pregnancy or menopause.

DeAnn

BklynPeach42@yahoo.com


Edited 8/18/2003 2:20:25 PM ET by bklynpeach42

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Mon, 08-18-2003 - 2:21pm
DeAnn

Hey you are welcome here anytime.

Hugs

Mary

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Mon, 08-18-2003 - 2:22pm
Thnaks for you reply.

Not familiar with TPTB.

DeAnn

BklynPeach42@yahoo.com

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Mon, 08-18-2003 - 2:37pm
Thanks for the reply. As my name implies, I'm from Brooklyn (NY) where thick skins are the norm. LOL

When I replied that I was saddend by folks feeling it was best not to speak on the issue, I did not expect that folks feelings would be hurt because I really wanted to hear what they had to say whether we were in agreement or not. Oh, well, I can only assume that political correctness is such a part of our national fabric now that folks are not comfortable with saying what they really think. Such are the musings of a Stepford Wife reading Farenheit 451 in 1984 (Another sentence that will undoubtledly leave me in someones disfavor). Open mouth, remove foot.

I thought one of the joys of being a full fledged adult was the ability to speak ones mind, non derogatorily of course, without fear. Maybe its just me, but I have to bite my tongue all day long, and really like being able to express myself at some point in the day, or bounce an idea of someone without having to worry about the professional repercussions, or alienating family.

Either this Board and I will fit or we won't. I shall play it by ear.


DeAnn

BklynPeach42@yahoo.com

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