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Tue, 01-29-2008 - 12:28pm

I have this very dear friend whos Mom is in the hospital.  She is 87 and nearing the end of her time here on earth.  Very sad but it is really the way life goes... we enter the world do what we can and then leave when we are all done, hopefully accomplishing many things along the way.


Now my friend is wanting to bring her mom home from the hospital for her last days, and she has asked if I could help provide the care she needs.  I have never taken the home support course, but yesterday I was trained a bit and tomorrow will get more.  I need to learn how to administer her meds if needed etc how to do the basic  care and learn how to use the equipment she will need to be able to be home.


I could nto say no to my girlfriend when she asked me, it is not one of the top of my wants but for a dear friend I really want to be there in any way I can. 


Which brings me to a question I want to ask....  How would you feel  would you say no or would you do it because you feel it is the right thing to do...or what?


I am ok with it now but  just wish we were not having to face her mom  nearing the end, always a sad time.


 


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Tue, 01-29-2008 - 2:05pm

That is a hard question.

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Tue, 01-29-2008 - 6:32pm

Hi Lor


If I was really uncomfortable about doing it I would probably say no. However with a very good friend who really needed my help I would say yes. Not a fun thing to have to do but sometimes when we do these type of things we learn just how much strength we have.


Love ya


                          &n
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Tue, 01-29-2008 - 6:59pm

Thanks...

     

 

          

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Tue, 01-29-2008 - 7:04pm

I think I am about to see what I am made of ... hoping I can do this right though.

     

 

          

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Tue, 01-29-2008 - 7:24pm
You are a wonderful and special lady Lori!!! You will be

       


 


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Tue, 01-29-2008 - 11:40pm

Oh my what an awesome person you are dear Lori...even thought you are hesitant...you are willing to do your best for your friend and her mom....You have what it takes..and you have put tears in my eyes at your generosity!


Hugs, Ruth


 


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Tue, 01-29-2008 - 11:48pm

Thanks Gabby, but I

     

 

          

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Tue, 01-29-2008 - 11:52pm

Thanks but really I think it is what most would do if asked.

     

 

          

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Wed, 01-30-2008 - 4:02pm

Lor I agree if that should happen while you are watching her that would indeed be a hard thing to deal with.


Love ya


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Wed, 01-30-2008 - 4:50pm

Hi, Lor. Well, I would probably do it for a dear friend, if I thought I was capable. Since you are pretty rural, it's a very good thing to have someone to help out; you probably don't have a ton of services out there, do you? Many folks here use hospice for end-of-life care; my sister did when my BIL was dying, but we all live in a city with many services. There gets to be a point when you simply are tired, or you just are too emotionally exhausted to do what needs to be done.


You are a very good friend, Lor. I don't believe just anyone could do what you are going to do. Not strong enough, or too squeamish. Don't sell yourself short.


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