sort of inbetween on things here.

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sort of inbetween on things here.
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Tue, 01-29-2008 - 12:28pm

I have this very dear friend whos Mom is in the hospital.  She is 87 and nearing the end of her time here on earth.  Very sad but it is really the way life goes... we enter the world do what we can and then leave when we are all done, hopefully accomplishing many things along the way.


Now my friend is wanting to bring her mom home from the hospital for her last days, and she has asked if I could help provide the care she needs.  I have never taken the home support course, but yesterday I was trained a bit and tomorrow will get more.  I need to learn how to administer her meds if needed etc how to do the basic  care and learn how to use the equipment she will need to be able to be home.


I could nto say no to my girlfriend when she asked me, it is not one of the top of my wants but for a dear friend I really want to be there in any way I can. 


Which brings me to a question I want to ask....  How would you feel  would you say no or would you do it because you feel it is the right thing to do...or what?


I am ok with it now but  just wish we were not having to face her mom  nearing the end, always a sad time.


 


Hugs,


 


 


 


 

     

 

          

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Wed, 01-30-2008 - 6:12pm

well, Lor


that is a tough call..depends on the friend and how much you will be asked to do/for how long


I applaud you for stepping up to help, despite the difficulty


that said, I cannot imagine asking anyone to do that for my parent


it is a sad time and she is lucky to have you


hugs

Dutch


Dutch

 

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Thu, 01-31-2008 - 2:49pm

Well will see , heck she may not go while under my care... and if she does then it is something I will just have to deal with at the time.

     

 

          

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Thu, 01-31-2008 - 2:56pm

Red, no service at all within 45 minutes from here, so no not a lot to rely on.

     

 

          

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Thu, 01-31-2008 - 3:05pm

This friend is in her 60s and is not sure she is able to do a lot of the care herself, lifting is one biggie that she is not able to do, so that along with the emotional stuff I think it was what she felt was the best for her mom.


She did tell me that if I wanted to say no that it would be ok as she did not want me to feel any obligation to do this.

     

 

          

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Thu, 01-31-2008 - 3:59pm
Well, it's nice that people in your community pull together and help each other out when needed. It's a lesson we all could learn from even for our own neighborhoods. We don't even know our neighbors anymore seems like.
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Thu, 01-31-2008 - 6:13pm

well, I think it is a wonderful thingyou are doing


and I am so proud of your dd for also being willing to help!


good luck with everything


hugs

Dutch


Dutch

 

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Fri, 02-01-2008 - 12:00am

Mary you are such a good friend... I would help out a friend in a heart beat to make sure my buddies Mom had a good death... You are doing the right thing sweetie!


You can do this and I am proud of you for leaving your comfort zone and stepping out of the box to help out!


Your Bud... Hula Girl

Aloha,

Lei

 

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Fri, 02-01-2008 - 1:14pm

Lor, you're such a wonderful friend, to do this for her. I'm sure both your friend and her mom really appreciate it.


I think I'd be able to do it, if it were for a close friend, but I know it would be difficult. I'd have to really prepare myself, emotionally, to deal with it.

Jan


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Fri, 02-01-2008 - 7:23pm

Lor, I'm sorry to hear about your friend's mom. Its sad but I think your helping is great and after she passes you will know you did everything you could to help. So often we want to help but don't know how.


If my friend needed me and I could do it would without blinking an eye.


Hope she passes peacefully at home which is where she'd rather be anyway. My prayers go out to you all.

Hugs, Bernie
Hugs, Bernie
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Sat, 02-02-2008 - 7:38pm

Ah thanks!