Dating Again at 47!
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| Tue, 02-19-2008 - 5:28pm |
Just a quick summary here. I lost my dh of 23 years 2 years ago from a brain aneurysm and went through a rough two years with my grief and my 6 kids to deal with! Well, after much counseling decided that I was lonely and needed to date again. I was introduced to a guy my age through friends and started dating him. My kids were not thrilled with this but have gotten used to it. It is like being a teenager again; talking on the phone, looking forward to seeing him, missing him during the week. Between my work, kids and his work we only get out once a week (sometimes we get to have a lunch out on Wednesday) but that is good enough right now. He is a sweet guy that is getting used to my kids (it has been 3-1/2 months). We have had our ups and downs but things are good now. It is funny around my house on Saturday. I spend the day with my kids doing fun stuff and then at 3:00 shower and get ready for my night out at 5:00. I change from my jeans in to dress clothes and look like an entirely different person. My 11 year old daughter just looks at me and says I do not look like her mom but like a model or something.
There are many times I say it is too much work dating and making sure my kids are okay to go out for the night, worrying about them when I am away from them and getting ready. But.. the lonliness I cannot go back to. I guess I am going to have to get used to being a split personality. Thanks for listening to me!


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Hi Capecod
Welcome to our board. If you are happy again that is a good thing and having someone in you life again that makes you happy is wonderful. You children will adjust in time and sounds like you are taking things in the right direction.
I think it is great that at the age of 47 you have found someone to be happy with again!!
HUGS
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Cape, dating again after so long is difficult to manage especially when kids are involved. I'm sure your life revolves around your kids but it is not your only world. You have emotional needs that needing tending too. Maybe I'm wrong but I think you are feelign pangs of guilt for dating. Don't! You have needs.
Kids don't deal with change easily
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47 is a truely magic number!
CO-CL to Stress and Women, Bereavement and Healing,
Dear CapeCod
Welcome to our board!
First let me say, I am sorry for the loss of your dh of 23 years
Second, I applaud your moving on with your life..despite the obstacles!
I can relate! I dated in my 40's too..after the break up of my 20yr marriage....in my case I dated an old friend
My kids were teens..(and only 2 not 6!)...I said to my dd I thought I would be seeing her off on dates, not the other way 'round! I told her I knew it could be hard to see a parent date and this is what she said:
"I thought about it...you have a right to be happy and he makes you happy"...this from a 14 yr old! pretty wise..as someone said..some people take years of therapy to get to that point!
SO..I know it is hard work..but it gives you something to look forward to...you have plenty of responsibility with work and kids.
Dutch
Hi, thanks for sharing all of that, it helps!!
CO-CL to Stress and Women, Bereavement and Healing,
Good for you!
you have quite a crew there!
and..give it time....time changes a lot!!
I always figure we..us and the kids are better off with more caring people in our lives!!
nice for you to have someone to talk to
does he have kids?
Dutch
Dutch
Good for you. Dutch is right you do have quite a crew there. I think you children will adjust to the new relationship seeing Mom happy again is going to be very good for them.
HUGS
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