Dating Again at 47!

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Registered: 06-18-2004
Dating Again at 47!
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Tue, 02-19-2008 - 5:28pm

Just a quick summary here.  I lost my dh of 23 years 2 years ago from a brain aneurysm and went through a rough two years with my grief and my 6 kids to deal with!  Well, after much counseling decided that I was lonely and needed to date again.  I was introduced to a guy my age through friends and started dating him.  My kids were not thrilled with this but have gotten used to it.  It is like being a teenager again; talking on the phone, looking forward to seeing him, missing him during the week.  Between my work, kids and his work we only get out once a week (sometimes we get to have a lunch out on Wednesday) but that is good enough right now.  He is a sweet guy that is getting used to my kids (it has been 3-1/2 months).  We have had our ups and downs but things are good now.  It is funny around my house on Saturday.  I spend the day with my kids doing fun stuff and then at 3:00 shower and get ready for my night out at 5:00.  I change from my jeans in to dress clothes and look like an entirely different person.  My 11 year old daughter just looks at me and says I do not look like her mom but like a model or something. 


There are many times I say it is too much work dating and making sure my kids are okay to go out for the night, worrying about them when I am away from them and getting ready.  But.. the lonliness I cannot go back to.  I guess I am going to have to get used to being a split personality.  Thanks for listening to me!

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Registered: 06-18-2004
Wed, 02-20-2008 - 6:39pm

Yes, my kids are a handful and more! He has a 22 year old daughter.

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Registered: 06-18-2004
Wed, 02-20-2008 - 6:41pm
Time is the key.
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Registered: 03-01-2006
Wed, 02-20-2008 - 6:53pm

good..so he has a clue!


and you were you before they arrived


and after they are grown, you still have to have a life


mine are 28 and 30 now


Dutch

 

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Registered: 06-18-2004
Wed, 02-20-2008 - 6:58pm

Yes a clue and there is always hope!

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Registered: 03-01-2006
Wed, 02-20-2008 - 7:18pm

wow


50 pounds! good for you! but I know the "stress diet" been on it myself


it is a lot for the kids too..it sounds like you are being careful to look out for their needs too


Dutch

 

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 02-21-2008 - 12:18pm

Hi and Welcome Capecod!

     

 

          

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Registered: 06-18-2004
Thu, 02-21-2008 - 4:22pm

Thanks, I keep telling myself that and will continue to do so!

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 02-21-2008 - 10:17pm
Hi Kim, welcome to the board. I'm sorry to hear of your loss. I know it must have

Jan


 

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 02-21-2008 - 11:57pm

I know this is not the same but

     

 

          

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Fri, 02-22-2008 - 1:37am
Hello and welcome to the board.

       


 


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