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| Wed, 02-27-2008 - 7:47pm |
I can post this now that I have calmed...
as many of you know..my dgs was born last week and we had the dgds for 4 days...we brought them to the hospital Sat to meet their brother..it was great and special...they were so cute...I got lots of great photos
as we were leaving for the hospital, I realized I hadn't spent much time with my hair but I thought "Who will care about my hair with all this going on?"
Now I know....I sent the photo show to many friends, inc an old one from waaay back...from my hometown..in college we worked together summers...haven't seen her in at least 20 yrs...she lives in Alaska....but at Xmas she put a letter in her card and her email and expressed a desire to be more in touch.
I thought..perfect opportunity..send her these photos of me and my family
in her reply she wrote:
Barbara, you must get a new style to your hair. No offense, but your doo is 40 years old. I bet if you got a shorter style the kids in the HS would not recognize you when you subbed! Especially in the granny reading glasses, it is like 1969 all over again! Let go!!!!
I was shocked! First of all: I like my hair the way it is, I do not want it shorter and I had just been to my hairdresser on Thurs..she keeps me current!
and why would I want the HS kids not to recognize me? they love me just the way I am!
And as for the glasses: I emailed back that they were not "granny glasses" but rather "fashion frames" that even the younger folks wear...and perhaps they don't have them in Alsaka
she emailed back that she hoped she hadn't offended me! ha...I said when someone says :no offense" usually one follows! and that ,yes, I was offended
I didn't say "wow looked like you gained a lot of weight" when I saw her Xmas photo,,LOL
I did tell her I didn't need negativity in my life, I prefer my friends accepting and supportive!
But this does not make me inclined to keep in touch!
ok..now I have vented..thanks for listening...I am letting it go
anyway I went today to hold dgs...he is already 6 days old! they grow up so fast! LOL
and THAT is the important stuff!!
we had 10 days of friends and visitors and dgds....very good
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Dutch,
Goodness gracious!
Jan
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TY
I thought I would get this kind of support.
My hair (and glasses) are pretty much like the photo of me here..that was taken last year
she was out of line
Dutch
TY
just as I thought:rude
she hasn't seen me in 20 yrs or more
and you have seen me in person rather recently!!
yes, dgs was just a cute little bundle! sleepy
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Dutch
Dutch
Some people have a LOT of nerve!
Hi Dutch
So true when some one starts a statement with no offense one usually does follow.
I often wonder why some people think they need to comment on the way a person looks. Especially if the person didn't ask you what you think of their personal appearance.
Sorry this person was so rude and hopefully she will understand that you didn't appreciate her comment.
Babies do grow up so fast, you just have to enjoy them while they are little
Love ya
Oh Wow Dutch, I think that was so uncalled for!
Thank you, dear, for your support!
yes, who needs toxic people!
I am already laughing about this now..and having others laugh!
you are the 2nd person today to suggest she was jealous...I never thought of that!
she doesn't have grandkids
I did email her and told her I didn't need negativity and ,yes, she had offended me
she did have a lot of nerve!
I wonder why people have to do that! Like that gal you knew..why say those things..I like to figure out their motivation
well..to paraprase Mr Rogers: I like me just the way I am ..LOL
and I appreciate your validation!
called ds the other day to check on the baby...I asked ds if he were talking yet..ds said "yes, and doing long division" LOL...another genius! LOL
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Dutch
Dutch
well, now I can laugh about it ..and had others laughing about it with me today!
perhaps this is why A.) I didn't keep in touch before and B) why she needs my friendship because she has alienated others
I don't need it!
had a good day subbing today
and my hair looked lovely....LOL
hugs
Dutch
Dutch
yep, you are right! she had a lot of gall!
but now I am laughing about it and making others laugh too..
and I think I won't want to email her too much....who needs that?
gotta go now...I am subbing tomorrow..I want to start NOW on my hair....LOL
hugs
Dutch
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