Not in the cards!

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Not in the cards!
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Thu, 05-15-2008 - 9:24am

Not a good morning here!  I'm supposed to be preparing to catch my flight out, but instead I'm headed to the hospital to tend to my mother.  The inevitable has finally happened.  She fell, broke her hip and was in surgery for about two hours last night.  A rod was inserted into her femur...way up at the top where it connects to the ball and joint.  The doctor tells us this is a very difficult place for a break and that rehab can be months and months long (even a year!).  Now of course she was not walking well to start with because of her horrible back problems, so I wonder if rehab is really even a possibility.  She is 81.


The story is actually worse!   She has been reminded and reminded to ALWAYS use her walker, but since she is stubborn, she figures she can get around her apartment without it. She lives in a senior community, but in an "independent" apartment, so for the most part they are on their own.......with staff nearby, if needed.  She has a pull cord in her bathroom.  Well, she fell in her little closet/laundry area at around 6:00 pm Monday night.  (I had left around 4:00 pm) and then she laid there ALL NIGHT IN PAIN until the nurse found her at around 11:00 am Tuesday morning.  She says she could not pull herself to the pull cord.  They have a check in light system that they are supposed to push every morning and of course she had not pushed hers, so when they went to check on her, they found her.   I actually had tried to call her and getting no answer (around 10:30 am) was already in my car on my way over there when the nurse called me on my cell phone.


AND....she is supposed to wear a button device around her neck for a circumstance just like this one, but it is "too uncomfortable" according to her.......might have been more comfortable than laying there all night!!! 


I am exhausted.....mentally, emotionally, and physically depleted.  I'm sure that all the living arrangements will need to change....at a minimum to "assisted" status (that would be moving to a different building in the same complex furniture et all) and maybe to skilled nursing which she will hate!!!  Since January, I have spent hours and hours dealing with this back/nerve pain issue and actually Tuesday had been her second in a series of three epidurals which were to help that.  So much for that.


Anyway,I had made arrangements for this weekend in Milwaukee and really NEEDED this weekend, but not in the cards.  I hated to have to call my roomie Free last night......so disappointed.


So here I am.....teary-eyed, frustrated and scared and angry in the same breath......and headed to the hospital to find out what lays ahead.  We can use all the prayers and positive thinking that you can muster!

                           Hugs bugsSooze
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Thu, 05-15-2008 - 12:24pm

Oh no Sooze.... so very sorry to hear about your Mom!

     

 

          

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Thu, 05-15-2008 - 1:20pm

Aw (((((((Sooze)))))))...feel so badly for you! Such a tough time. So sorry you're having to deal with all this. I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Hang in there, girl!


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Thu, 05-15-2008 - 6:22pm

OH NO!! ((Sooze))


how awful! ..for mom..for you!


frustrating, upsetting, disapointing!


all of it


wishing the best for her and you


a long road ahead!!


will keep you both

Dutch

 

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Thu, 05-15-2008 - 8:52pm
((((((((((((((((Sooze)))))))))))))....your mother is so much like mine, unbelievable!!

       


 


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Fri, 05-16-2008 - 11:01am

{{{Sooze}}} just not a good situation at all. I am so sorry you are dealing with all this when it was supposed to be your weekend with the gals. I hope your dm doesn't suffer too much pain. Hopefully, when she leaves the hospital, she can be in the area that offers more assistance and that will give you some relief. I am so sorry this had to happen.


My dmil lives in just such a place also. They check on her at 7:00 am every day, which I feel is a much better time since things do tend to happen at night. She has the same buttons and bells

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Fri, 05-16-2008 - 1:26pm

Yo, Sooze....just a drive by but wanted to say how sorry I am you are going through this as well as your Mom.....get the wrist alarm instead of the one around the neck....MIL wore this much better for some reason.


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Fri, 05-16-2008 - 8:11pm
Sooze, we miss you, but completely understand. There will be other meets. Not to worry. Your mom needs you. We're keeping you and you mom in our thoughts and prayers.

Jan


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Fri, 05-16-2008 - 8:25pm

So sorry to hear about all this Sooze.

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Sat, 05-17-2008 - 10:21am

Thank you so much for your prayers and well wishes.

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Sat, 05-17-2008 - 12:43pm
Sooze I am so sorry to hear about your mom. Our parents can be so stubborn at times and its soooo frustrating! Keeping you all in my prayers and sending positive vibes for a quick recovery. Please keep us posted.
Hugs, Bernie
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