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| Thu, 05-15-2008 - 9:24am |
Not a good morning here! I'm supposed to be preparing to catch my flight out, but instead I'm headed to the hospital to tend to my mother. The inevitable has finally happened. She fell, broke her hip and was in surgery for about two hours last night. A rod was inserted into her femur...way up at the top where it connects to the ball and joint. The doctor tells us this is a very difficult place for a break and that rehab can be months and months long (even a year!). Now of course she was not walking well to start with because of her horrible back problems, so I wonder if rehab is really even a possibility. She is 81.
The story is actually worse! She has been reminded and reminded to ALWAYS use her walker, but since she is stubborn, she figures she can get around her apartment without it. She lives in a senior community, but in an "independent" apartment, so for the most part they are on their own.......with staff nearby, if needed. She has a pull cord in her bathroom. Well, she fell in her little closet/laundry area at around 6:00 pm Monday night. (I had left around 4:00 pm) and then she laid there ALL NIGHT IN PAIN until the nurse found her at around 11:00 am Tuesday morning. She says she could not pull herself to the pull cord. They have a check in light system that they are supposed to push every morning and of course she had not pushed hers, so when they went to check on her, they found her. I actually had tried to call her and getting no answer (around 10:30 am) was already in my car on my way over there when the nurse called me on my cell phone.
AND....she is supposed to wear a button device around her neck for a circumstance just like this one, but it is "too uncomfortable" according to her.......might have been more comfortable than laying there all night!!!
I am exhausted.....mentally, emotionally, and physically depleted. I'm sure that all the living arrangements will need to change....at a minimum to "assisted" status (that would be moving to a different building in the same complex furniture et all) and maybe to skilled nursing which she will hate!!! Since January, I have spent hours and hours dealing with this back/nerve pain issue and actually Tuesday had been her second in a series of three epidurals which were to help that. So much for that.
Anyway,I had made arrangements for this weekend in Milwaukee and really NEEDED this weekend, but not in the cards. I hated to have to call my roomie Free last night......so disappointed.
So here I am.....teary-eyed, frustrated and scared and angry in the same breath......and headed to the hospital to find out what lays ahead. We can use all the prayers and positive thinking that you can muster!



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Dearest Sooze
This is going to be a long hard road my friend for your mother and for you. I keeping
you both in my prayers.
Love
&n
(((Hugs))) Sooze. Not a good situation. I hope you get a break soon because you're right...it's probably going to be a long haul. Any chance she'll be more willing to use the walker and the lifeline now?
It's really sad that you had to miss the meet. It is just so nice being able to connect with friends like that.
Take care. She's in good hands now...give yourself a break.
Kat
Sooze,
This is my first visit to this board, nonetheless I am so sorry to hear of your circumstances.
cali gal,
Thanks for your support Kat.
Thanks for your support Faye and nice to "meet" you.
Sooze, I am so sorry about all that you and your mom
are going through. My mom is going through something
similar on the Big Island. In July she will either live
with my sister or in a carehome for up to three people
near my sister.
I am going to keep you and your mom in my prayers!
Please keep us posted....
Big hugs,
Cindy
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~*~ Aloha to all .... ~*~
cali gal,
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