Got an email from my cousin today

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Got an email from my cousin today
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Tue, 06-10-2008 - 7:38pm

I had emailed her yesterday by my dads request.  Dad wanted to call his sister who is now in a nursing home, but he wanted her phone number and address, so asked if I could email my cousin and ask her for the info.


Anyhow I got an email back with  the info I needed but also a very short note to say that her brother died.  She said on the 23rd she got a call from the police that he was found dead in his home, and had aparently passed a couple weeks before.   He was 70 years old.   My cousin and my aunt had talked to him  at the end of April but had not heard back from him since then.


So anyhow I hcd to call my dad and let him know.   He said that although  his side of the family was never real close  in contact he had such a  warm spot for his nephew (who was named after him).  I hate being the barer of such bad news, seems I have had to do that a few times lately to him. 


Sad but for me I never really never got to know him much, I remember meeting him when I was a kid and then when my Mom passed I called to get his moms new phone number, but other than that there was no contact.


Think I might go see my dad in a week or so, depending on if I get my house finished.  I would like to spend a couple days with him,  he gets lonely sometimes and hates to admit it but you can tell by his voice on the phone.  Am thinking I would like to take a week off work and  go and  spend time between his place and my dds place, as my dsil is heading off to work and will be away all summer long.  She will need company then.


Well better go  I am at work, and this is not what I get paid to do...LOL


 


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Wed, 06-11-2008 - 11:51am

HI Lor


I always hate having to be the barer of bad news. I am glad you got the information for you Dad though. I bet he does get lonely sometimes. It would be so nice if you could go and spend some time with him. Good for you both I think. Also would give you some time with your Dd and dgd.


Love ya


                          &n
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Wed, 06-11-2008 - 1:25pm

Yea not the best to have to deliver that news, but

     

 

          

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Wed, 06-11-2008 - 2:20pm

Lor, so sorry about his passing and I agree with
Mare...better that you pass the news first before
he talks to his sister.

We are losing so many these days, well at the ages
we are.

Hugs,

Cindy


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Wed, 06-11-2008 - 2:38pm

Oh that is very sad that he passed an nobody knew for two weeks.So sad..


I will tell you that's my biggest fear.That I will have died alone and nobody knows for awhile.

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Wed, 06-11-2008 - 7:33pm

You know Cindy I was just thinking how many in the last year I have known who have passed, guess that it is

     

 

          

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Wed, 06-11-2008 - 7:45pm
That is so sad, Lori, I am so sorry to hear that.

       


 


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Wed, 06-11-2008 - 8:20pm

how very sad!


but he had to be told


not news we want to hear or share..sad facts of life!


and family dynamics are so...well..different in all cases!!


would be nice for you to go visit your dad

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Wed, 06-11-2008 - 11:30pm

Yup do really want to go spend a bit of time with them, just figuring the best time to do it is the challenge.


I need to book off work 3 or 4 weeks as they said all vacation time has to be used up... so suppose this is a good enough reason to go.


Yes it is sad, Always sad when it is family.

     

 

          

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Wed, 06-11-2008 - 11:36pm

Your right it is sad, and I did have to tell him.

     

 

          

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Thu, 06-12-2008 - 7:44am

what is it they say, family is your first learning experience? something like that


same with my family..big difference between my mom and dad's side..I would say her side was the more "down to earth", more open with feelings, his side more "intellectual"...good folks on both sides..you learn how to deal with, approach all kinds that way..everyone has something to contribute


not unusal for dad to want to stay put..seems the older we get , the more comfortable we are closer to home


saw a neat 101 yr old lady on TV yesterday..she still likes learning new things..graduated from college when she was near 90...now she is painting...she's pretty good too..I admired her attitude


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