A brief update
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| Thu, 06-26-2008 - 8:57am |
Well, the "flurry" has settled some here for a few days anyway. Mother (following her second fall and second surgery) is back in the rehab facility where they are doing limited physical therapy as she is still "non-weight-bearing" status. My concern now is that Medicare will decide she is on "maintaining " rather than "showing improvement" and will cut her off, forcing us to move her. This facility is such a good one and I would prefer she was allowed to stay in order to get the therapy all the way through to the walking stage. Unfortunately, the rules and regulations are so complicated and even the doctor can't always overcome them! We have offered to private pay, but were told they don't have that option. Grrr.....
Anyway, I am only spending about two hours with her each day now....a better situation as I have some time for me. Still every day is planned around her, and I do all her personal laundry. Believe me, with food spills and incontinence.....there is a fair amount of laundry.
I am planning to have both sons and wives and dgd here for a cookout on the 4th.....trying to re-establish some family normality. I am really pretty depleted of physical and mental and emotional energy and I am trying to actively regain some of that. More easily said than done when I am the sole caretaker! Some of you have experienced that so you know what I mean.
I'm taking time to read and respond to posts today...good to catch up again!



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you are welcome, my dear...
life hands us such a variety of challenges!
going back to work may actually be good for you/ change of focus...I was in subbing the other day...my old school..and realized how comfortable I felt..the rest of the world faded away..and for that time..the world was those kids and my colleagues...the kids were taking finals..they had loads of free time after it...never good to give middle school kids free time..no structure..I was prepared...out of my "sub bag" (like Mary Poppins) I pulled out Mad-Libs and we had a ball...and my former colleagues loved it!
"well, you know the "serenity prayer"...I ask myself.." Is this something I have control over or not"?"
for example, years ago relatives tried to make me feel guilty about my mentally ill brother who disappeared..I knew what I had tried to do to get him help..finally I learned to say to them" tell me what it is you think I can do and I will do it"....guess what? ..no answers
I read KIte Runner, so did dd and Bob...a very powerful book. I just read The book of Air and Shadows..about a possible new Shakespeare play...from point of view of 3 people in different centuries..interesting
ok...your job for today is to divide up your day into manageable chunks! LOL
good luck
((hugs))
Dutch
(((Sooze))) Hope your mom gets to stay at the facility until she can walk. Health care issues in this country are disgraceful at best.
You really need to cut back the hours spent with her to give you some breathing room. Caregiving is not easy. take care of yourslef and enjoy the cookout.
Thanks Bern.
Sooze, I hear ya. Unfortunately, Medicare does not
want to pay for anything that is not medically necessary.
My mom was in a rehab facility for 6 weeks, then 4
weeks ago my sis had to take her out because
there wasn't anything else for the rehab to do,
but maintain, which could be done at home.
But I know what you mean.
I'm glad you'll be having the kids over for the
holiday :)
Hugs,
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~*~ Aloha to all .... ~*~
i can emphathize with you sooze! soul caretaking is what i have done,and it is depeleting!i hope that you can straighten out medicare,that would be awful if you had to move your mom,and probably to a place where they wouldnt give her as much attention too! im glad to read that her second surgery went well,many prayers that she regains the strength to improve! and prayers of strength to you! enjoy your holiday with the family! take time for you,also! hugs mindy
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