I am really so happy about this...(long)

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I am really so happy about this...(long)
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Thu, 09-25-2008 - 5:40pm

Many of you don't know the story of my DD and her little boy, my grandboy, Hunter. About 3 weeks after he was born by C-section, she got up in the middle of the night and caught her DH (insert your own meaning of D) having at it with another woman. He had not been very good to her to begin with, then this.


So she and Hunter came to live with Frank and me for about a year when we were in Spokane. She moved back down here about the time of my hip surgery, got an apt. and a job, and with some help got on her feet. Ex-DH grudgingly and very erradically paid child support.


We moved to FL for a year, then back because dear little Hunter-man was diagnosed with autism and DD needed support.


Flash forward to yesterday. DD and her new, wonderful DH have been getting mail from an attorney representing ex-DH who was complaining about his obligations when he doesn't see Hunter, and even (grrr) hinting that he wasn't his son. (You can tell by looking --it's obvious he is, unfortunately).


Well DD and the wonderful new DH responded by saying that he could either 1) keep his obligations and work up to visitations if he has solved his alcohol problems, or 2) sign Hunter over for step-parent adoption.


Yesterday they received a response saying he would sign the adoption papers. Obviously he only wanted out of the child support obligation.


I feel 2 ways about this. One, I'm so happy that DD's DH loves Hunter enough to make him his legal son. He's a great guy, and Hunter deserves him, whether he understands any of this or not.


But two, I feel really sorry for DD's ex-DH and his family, but not too much. Because of their choice to never make an effort to see Hunter, they have no idea what a wonderful little guy they're missing out on. He is truly a blessing to me. As his grandmother, I can only shake my head in wonderment.


His other "new" grandparents love him to death, too. I'm just so, so, so happy Hunter will have a complete family who love him so much. And good riddance to the others. It's their loss.


Just wanted to share...sorry about the length.


 

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 09-25-2008 - 7:16pm

Hi Red


What great news for Hunter and his soon to be adoptive father. I cannot feel sorry for people who don't want to take care of the children they help bring to this world. I feel for those who cannot take care of their children. When a parent just cannot or will not take the time to see their child. Because of divorce or whatever the cause then as you said it is their loss.


Your Dd is one very lucky woman to have found such a good man who will now be Hunters adopted father. This just makes me so happy for your Dd and for you.


Love


                          &n
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 09-25-2008 - 8:02pm
Red, I am so glad I checked in today. All I can say is....Wonderful, wonderful!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 09-25-2008 - 8:24pm

Wow, Red, I am so happy for Hunter!


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Registered: 07-17-2004
Thu, 09-25-2008 - 9:29pm
Oh Red - how wonderful for Hunter and his Mama & (new) Daddy .. . I am a firm believer that something good always comes out of 'not so good' circumstances . . it may take time but it does eventually
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 09-25-2008 - 9:37pm
Red, I'm so happy to ready your good news.

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Registered: 04-09-1999
Thu, 09-25-2008 - 10:39pm

Awww Red....that is just wonderful...Reading your post brought tears to my eyes!


 


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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 09-25-2008 - 10:49pm

Red now that is wonderful news... well the now part anyhow!


I am so glad becasue you are right Hunter does deserve that as does your dd.

     

 

          

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Registered: 09-16-1999
Thu, 09-25-2008 - 11:21pm
Red, I'm so glad you posted your story and it is wonderful news for all of you.
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Fri, 09-26-2008 - 1:28am
Hi Red.... I can understand your different feelings about the adoption.

       


 


                              &n

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Registered: 09-19-2003
Fri, 09-26-2008 - 7:20am
((red)) i love to read about happy endings!! hugs mindy

    

                      

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