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| Mon, 09-29-2008 - 10:22pm |
I can hardly believe it myself!! My mother......back in her apartment for 10 days....fell yet again last Tuesday and is back in the hospital. She dislocated her shoulder and has about a 2 inch gash in her forehead. She has had help there until noon everyday and had done quite well actually. But, she is so stubborn.....just would not listen.....and apparently tried to walk in her apartment "just a few steps" WITHOUT her walker! Grrrrrr.... She tripped and slammed into a door! If you are counting, that is three major falls with major consequences in 4 months.
Now she has had an adverse reaction to pain meds and over the weekend was hovering somewhere around Pluto.......dillusional and totally not in her right mind. She was screaming at the nurses to get away and screaming at me for being so cruel to her. It has been a nightmare. At least today (almost a week later) she is coming out of that, but has meanwhile developed some mild pneumonia and a UTI. So much for clinical details...I won't bore you with more.
And me???...... lets see.....suicidal might describe it!!!!
Now she has to move from her apartment which is in the independent part of a retirement facility. We haven't the faintest idea where she will eventually move....but it won't be living by herself anymore. I HOPE for assisted living, but she may find herself needing the "skilled" level which is usually not the most pleasant of arrangements.
My #1 dil and I are going to start tomorrow with boxing up kitchen stuff and knick knacks etc. I guess I'll bring boxes of stuff home with me and store furniture in one of those rental storerooms until I know where she is going next and what she may or may not need.
Oh.....and this is a kicker......she only has 6 days of skilled care left for this year that Medicare will pay, then her secondary catches a small percent, but mostly she will have to pay on her own. Will this never end??
We had thought since we dealt with this all summer that we might get away for a few days during Fall Break, but since that is next week.....guess not! And my brother????Don't get me started!
Obviously I (we) greatly need your prayers!!!
Edited 9/29/2008 10:23 pm ET by sassysooze



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Ouch, Sooze! I am so sorry that Mom fell again;
it is like starting all over again for you. Big Hugs!
Your brother...let me slap him good!
I hope you can find a good assisted living place
soon.
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Jan
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So sorry, Sooze! It's so hard dealing with elderly folks who are just not able to be themselves (due to meds). It's just another layer of difficulty upon what's there already. So stressful.
She really sounds like she should be in skilled care. If she cannot keep herself safe, i.e., thinks she can walk unaided when she obviously can't, then she should be under watchful care. For her own good, and your sanity!
Keep it together, girl. This bump in the road shall soon pass. Love ya,
Hi Sooze
Girl I bet you are just beyond it all right now. I am so sorry to hear about your Mom. I remember my mother just would not listen when she got to a certain stage. That
Oh Sooze I am so sorry to hear about your moms fall again!
I am sure your stress level is at an all new high, having to deal with all that!
Jan,
Thanks for your prayers.
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